Post # 16
I’m in the minority, because I don’t really care that my DH wanted to go to a strip club for part of his bachelor party. We agreed on what would absolutely not be acceptable, and we both knew that at the end of the night he was coming home to me, the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
To each their own.
Post # 17
My friend’s Fiance is going to a strip club for his bachelor party, and she wants to go with him! She has never been to a strip club before and is interested in seeing one, which is okay with him because he didn’t want to do it in the first place (his brothers pressured him into it). My SO is invited and he asked me how I felt about it… I don’t really like the idea, but didn’t want to deny him the experience, either, so I said “I don’t know”. Though, if my friend will be there I wouldn’t mind so much. Not that I don’t trust him, just that I feel like none of the other guys would be buying lap dances with the bride present!
Post # 18
I really could not care less. This is at the bottom of my list of concerns.
Post # 19
To be honest it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I know Fiance is v uncomfortable with the idea but I’m sure his best man will be doing something stripper related! He’s not going to do anything with her and it’s nothing personal so for me it doesn’t give me cause for concern. Just my opinion but if my Fiance has a stripper it’s all a bit of fun as far as I’m concerned.
Post # 20
It CAN be disrespectful, and it CAN be threatening. But ultimately I see it as a bit of fun that some guys like to have. If that’s the spirit of it, then that’s fine by me.
Post # 21
Not a fan. DH went to a strip club at his bachelor party though, mainly to appease his friends. The last one he had gone to kicked him out because he fell asleep, it’s not really his thing, but his friends wanted to go so he did for a while.
What bothers me more is the whole idea of a bachelor/bachelorette party being a last hurrah. Like my life is going to suck and I’ll never be able to have fun again, so I might as well get it in before I get married.
Post # 22
I don’t like it. I’m glad that Fiance doesn’t either. He may go to a concert with his best friend as a “bachelor party.”
Post # 23
I love strippers XD
I have no issues with my Fiance having them at his bach. party (though I don’t know if he will) and I will almost definitely have some at mine (not sure what gender in either case, lol).
Post # 24
I never thought I would mind. My H has gone to strippers before. I even took him there with friends on his birthday once. But once the bachelor party rolled around it did start to feel personal for some reason and I couldn’t help but feel disrespected.
I wanted so much to just be the “cool” girl that didn’t care, so yeah my H went for an out of town bachelor party and the best man hired strippers to come to their house party. I 100% trust my Hubby and insecurity was not the issue, but I couldn’t help feeling insulted that this was how the guys (many of whom are my dear friends too) decided to celebrate our marriage. And then on top of it I felt like I had no choice but to suffer it for the sake of tradition and the old boys club.
Fast forward to now and my friend is seriously feeling like calling off the wedding due to bachelor party stress. I don’t know why some guys still do this when their significant others don’t like it?
Post # 25
I’m going to agree with some of the recent PP’s, that it doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t LOVE the idea of lapdances or having private strippers at someone’s house as much as just going to a strip club in general, but as long as there’s nothing that could be construed as cheating, like kissing, groping (which in most cases this is not allowed), etc. then I really don’t care.
Post # 26
- Wedding: October 2015 - Versailles Banquets (Northwest Suburbs of Chicago)
I really could care less what he and his buddies do for his bachelor party. We have been to stripclubs together so it so not a big deal. The more you make it a big deal, the more it becomes a big deal.
Post # 27
I just wanted to give you the perspective that even if you weren’t overweight you might likely feel the same way. I am not overweight but the thought of it still bothers me so much. Despite “being able to compete in the hotness category” (i reaaaally hope this doesn’t sound conceited because it is not meant to be at all), it doesn’t change how I feel towards strip clubs, etc.
It’s the whole principle, the whole idea of it that bothers me, not the competition factor.
Post # 28
I dont like it at all. My fiance and I are thinking about doing co-bachelor/bachelorette party. Go to the same location and have a nice dinner as a big group but go separate ways to go bar hopping and have fun (hopefully without strippers). One of my Fiance’s closest friend is the one that actually suggested this idea because it would be a good time for both brides party and the groom’s party to get closer and have fun as well. My fiance thought it would be neat and exciting if we bumped into each other and pretended like it was our first time meeting if we did bump into each other during the night. I know it’s cheezy and maybe weird…lol
Post # 29
In theory I don’t have an issue with strippers or going to the club occasionally (but strip clubs are just anot a thing where I live, either). I find it offensive though when guys go out as though they’re single when really they’re getting married soon. That’s just me though. It’s more the attitude than the actual events, if that makes sense.
Post # 30
I couldn’t care less.
I don’t care if my husband ends up at a strip bar once in a blue moon when out with his buddies. A few times a year, whatever. If he was going weekly like a little juvenile creep and spending a bunch of money on it then that’s a different story.