Post # 47
We did first look photos to avoid a gap. Our ceremony ended and cocktail hour starte immediately in the same venue. We did not want a gap at all. I’m Catholic, and I’ve been to lots of weddings with the Catholic gap, but it still annoys me.
Post # 48
I meant SHOTS!
I would never complain to anyone who had a gap. Nobody with any tact would.
Post # 49
I generally hate gaps because I generally get bored at cocktail hours. But I understand why most people have them. You gotta take pictures, or sometimes it just works out that way with venues.
We ended up having about a 1 1/2 hour gap because our pictures were going to take a while and our reception was a few miles away from the church. Since I don’t like waiting around at weddings, I tried to make our gap/cocktail hour time as fun as possible for guests until we arrived. That meant: plenty of appetizers, plenty of drinks, good music, and the most fun – a scavenger hunt! Our reception venue was part art-gallery, so we hung photos or other objects from our relationship around the art gallery, passed out clue cards, and had people solve the clues/find the items and turn it in to the DJ for prizes. I didn’t know how many people would participate. I figured most people might just want to drink and chat and not be bothered with a “task” but there’d be a few nerdy people like me would might want to play. Turns out, most people played and LOVED it. I still don’t like long gaps, but the more you have to entertain people, the better.
Post # 50
I don’t count cocktail hour as a gap. That being said, we had no gap as the ceremony and reception were in the same place and cocktail hour started immediately after our ceremony. We did a first look and did all the family/bridal party photos beforehand, and more photos during cocktail hour.
I personally hate huge gaps. DH and I did skip one ceremony as it was 2.5 hours away, with a 3 hour gap. I’m not boarding my dogs to attend your wedding, sorry.
Post # 51
As for me, we’re getting married at the same place that our reception is taking place but we’ll still be having a 90 minute gap between the 2. After the ceremony we’ll be going to a nearby beach to take photos and our guests will be enjoying music, refreshments, finger foods and lawn games if they desire at the venue. We’ll also provide some info about things to do in the surrounding area for those who don’t want to wait around. If we finish pictures before the 90 minutes is up then we’ll come back and mingle with our guests until the reception starts. I think that the couple knows their guests best and a 60-90 minute gap will not offend any of our guests.
Post # 52
@ju5tdance: we had a huge 2.5 hour gap — Catholic, so everyone was used to it!! We did provide bussing between ceremony and reception/hotel area, as well as bussing to a planned activity for those who wished that we used to fill time during the gap (trip to a beer garden, very fun). Since we had a planned activity that was fun and virtually no one had to drive, I was actually quite pleased with my gap!
Post # 53
Gaps are totally normal in my area, and I really don’t think anybody cares all that much. At least, I’ve never heard a complaint. Most people understand that Catholic churches don’t really give you an option of when to have the ceremony, and a lot of venues have set times as well. Our ceremony is at 3 or 3:30, that’s the only choice we got, and still haven’t decided. We will be doing a mass, so I anticipate it going to 4:30 (if we start at 3:30). Our cocktail hour starts at 6:30, and the venue is 30 minutes from the church. So really, I don’t think our gap is that bad. I am going to have the back page of the program list things to do in the area for out of towners, and everybody local usually just goes home for a little bit. One PP mentioned doing an ice cream truck, which I had never thought about, so maybe I’ll find some money in the budget for that, or maybe I’ll pay for a longer cocktail hour. But honestly, if I don’t do anything, most people will find something to do and not be upset about it.