Post # 16
psyche1978 : We did the same thing! Sent out invites around March 1, deadline May 1, wedding numbers due beginning of June. A lot came at the beginning, some towards the end. Still waiting on some people on FH’s side so he’s calling or FB messaging people. Still waiting on 11 families (sent out 88 invites for over 200 people).
Post # 17
jvl20 : I followed up with people to get rsvp’s, but in a very round about way lol.
“Hey X! I just wanted to check you got your invitation! Some of my family told me they never got theirs. Since you haven’t rsvp’d yet, I just wanted to double check that you got yours!”
Is that message manipulative and passive agressive? Yes. But it’s effective, and there wasn’t enough space to invite all of FI’s relatives soooo. Anyway to make the MOG happy.
Post # 18
It’s hard to get RSVPs confirmations in my experience. I think roughly 30% haven’t RSVPed, i sure text, email etc. but they either say they don’t know yet, or they will try etc.
It’s frustrating, $500 per person, I really really need to know if they come, it will be money wasted if we still count them
Post # 19
I voted 6-15%, but we found out after the deadline had passed that 4 or 5 people had all sent back their RSVPs on the same day and they mysteriously turned up after our wedding – all post marked the same day guests reported sending them. No idea what happened there, I’m going to assume a glitch with our local post office. So in reality it was probably less than 5% who didn’t even attempt to RSVP by the deadline – they’d all either forgotten or thought they had more time until the deadline. Everyone was able to tell us if they were coming or not when we got in touch, so that was helpful.
It’s generally expected that you’ll wait until the deadline before reaching out to guests. In fact, most people suggest waiting until a few days after the deadline just to see if any stragglers come in (or RSVPs that were sent on the deadline, as often happens).
Post # 20
oneinamillion : We know your wedding is going to be an expensive affair. No need to mention the pp price at every opportunity – it’s in poor taste.
jvl20 : I think you need to just sit back and wait until the deadline. You have some great scripts above to use when following up with the people you haven’t heard from. Good luck and try not to obsess!
Post # 21
Lesson here being… ask for electronic RSVPs lol… don’t know about the US but here’s in Australia snail mail is truly snail speed. A letter takes a week within the same city (and same suburb even!) to be received. And likelihood of getting lost is not low. So… I don’t trust the mail at all.
Post # 22
jvl20 : I think I chased a few people up maybe the day before my deadline? And you wouldn’t believe how many responses were ‘it’s not the rsvp date yet’ LOL. So I’d wait til the date passes, then start calling. I was shocked by how many people didn’t respond.
Post # 23
missyjz : I hear you bee! It’s ridiculously bad. A handful of my wedding invites never got delivered, and my invitation for a cousins wedding has gone missing in the mail.