POLL: How much should I gift if I’m a plus-one?

posted 12 months ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much do you gift as a +1?
    $0.00 : (36 votes)
    55 %
    $25 : (4 votes)
    6 %
    $50 : (5 votes)
    8 %
    $75 : (1 votes)
    2 %
    $I refuse to give more than $75 but if you think I should give more go ahead and select this option$ : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Get them something from the registry : (14 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 2
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    6502 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Why aren’t the two of you giving a gift together, based upon your SO’s relationship with the couple and what you are financially comfortable with gifting? 

    Post # 4
    Member
    6322 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would just put my name on whatever gift SO is giving. I wouldn’t give them a separate gift from ME. 

    Post # 5
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    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    happiekrappie :  I don’t know, I didn’t go through the list and think about how much each guest had gifted for our wedding and whether or not they gifted more as a couple. I would find that really weird on the married couple’s part if they turned up their noses because you didn’t gift a larger amount as a pair. I would just select something you and your SO like for them as a couple and feel comfortable giving and then go and enjoy celebrating their day! 

    Post # 6
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    25 posts
    Newbee

    I would give a joint gift. H and I usually give $50, but we are in a LCL area so that would vary.

    Post # 7
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    9608 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    happiekrappie :  I think this is a very regional question, but in my social circle $100 for two guests is normal, so that’s what we give, give or take. (Over/under just based on what’s on the registry)

    Before we were married we let the one who was friends with the bride/groom take care of the cost.

    Post # 8
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    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    it’s really between you and your SO to work out who puts in what amount for the gift just like people work out who pays for dinner with their SO when they go out, everyone does things differently. Typically when my husband and I were dating and we went to a wedding of someone I was closer to you I would pay the gift and vice versa. Either way you should be getting one gift between the two of you but do you split it 50-50 or whatever you decide. ETA in my area we give double for double the guests so typically 150 pp (in ny)

    Post # 9
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    68 posts
    Worker bee

    My boyfriend and I have a rule: if it’s my friend, I gift. His friend, he gifts. I usually do $200 or something of that value off the registry for the both of us. 

     

    So… double what your SO would give if he went by himself? And he should pay for it. 

    Post # 10
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    11940 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    If you are invited as a guest of your SO, then the gift is his responsibility. 

    Post # 11
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    348 posts
    Helper bee

    happiekrappie :  Everytime I was invited with a plus one, I just bought an extra amount of gift myself.  The reverse is also true.  I really can’t imagine asking my date for extra money towards the gift.  If you think your date is cheap, offer him money I guess?

     

    Post # 12
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    happiekrappie :  normally it’s a joint gift from the two of you , me and my husband always gift $200 but that’s because we’re from the ny area and everything is expensive here. I would say if these are his friends he should gift them at least $200 for Including you. The gift should be his responsibility because they are his friends you know what I mean?  

    Post # 13
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    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I voted zero because your fiancé should cover the cost of the gift. I grew up with “cover your plate” so I would give $100-$150 per person for a NY wedding. Where we live now (Midwest) the cost of living is less so we give $75-$100 per person. 

    Post # 14
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    4663 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    You go in on the gift together. Whatever he wants to give, you double. 

    Post # 15
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    961 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    So whenever my now-FI and I have been to weddings (only for families), the person whose family it was paid for the gift. So if I was the “plus-1” I wouldn’t pay. It’s come out pretty even, 2 weddings for my family and 2 weddings for his family

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