- eurasianbee
- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
Depends on the region. We live in the northeast. DH and I give $200 from the 2 of us when we attend weddings. That was what we received from most couples at our wedding as well.
Depends on the region. We live in the northeast. DH and I give $200 from the 2 of us when we attend weddings. That was what we received from most couples at our wedding as well.
Give as a couple. As for how much, it depends on where you live. I live in the midwest, and about $40 per couple is pretty standard. The only people we recieved more from was my parents and grandparents.
FH and I always purchase from the registry and sign the card or ecard together.
Your bf should just gift whatever he feels comfortable with and put your name on the card – it would be weird to get a separate gift imo. I usually spend more on the gift if my husband is attending a wedding with me than if I go alone, but not necessarily 2x more.
My FH & I usually give one gift from the two of us ~$200, $100 from each of us. In the past, we have sent a registry gift as well. We live in NJ so that’s pretty standard for the northeast.
Been a plus one a couple times recently. We’ve chosen something from the registry together and he’s paid about 65% of the cost and I’ve taken about 35% of the cost. We typically chose something about $15 more than he would have bought on his own. (For context we’re early twenties if that helps!)
I don’t know why you wouldn’t just give as a couple…
I know that most people prefer cash, so depending on his amount, I may pitch in a small fraction of that just so they can get more money (I see how expensive weddings can be, so I don’t want to be a cheapskate—but I’m also not going to be overly-generous here).
Thanks for the advice, bee! 🙂
As a side note, traditionally “and guest” is an etiquette inappropriate way to address an invitation regardless of whether it’s a +1 situation or a member of a social unit. For the former, one is supposed to ask for the name and address of that person in order to send a separate invitation. For the latter, certainly the person deserves to be invited by name.
I don’t think it’s worth being offended, though. A lot of people are uninformed but well intentioned.
If someone I was dating when I was single invited me to be his date to a friend’s wedding and expected me to contribute to the gift, it would have been a deal breaker.
If you were a true +1 (as in a random date and don’t actually know the couple at all), then I’d say you’re not obligated to gift anything – but your date should be “covering” the entirety of the gift that a couple would give (so your date should pay $200, if you were me)