[Poll] How soon did you feel chemistry with your SO?

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did you feel chemistry with your SO?
    Immediately. There was instant attraction and chemistry. : (109 votes)
    62 %
    I felt immediate attraction, but our relationship had to grow before I felt chemistry : (28 votes)
    16 %
    I didn’t feel attraction OR chemistry until we had gotten to know each other for awhile : (26 votes)
    15 %
    Other/mixed : (12 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    8106 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    kiram :  we hit it off right away at a party and the way were cracking jokes and playing off each other in conversation someone asked us how long we’d been dating and we said “um…we met 2 hours ago” lol. We then went on to have 4 dates in the first week of meeting. We couldn’t get enough of each other! I wasn’t sure right away if it was “the one” but I knew this guy was super smart and funny and I wanted to be around him as much as possible. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    281 posts
    Helper bee

    I was 33 when I met my husband and if I wasnt so jaded I could say I “knew” that first night. Definitely by our second date I was like “woah, I think this is it. He’s the one”

    Previously I had good dates and really liked guys I met or dated.

    But this was different. My husband was a nearly instant feeling of being “home”. We shared a lot of nerdy interests that most other people find boring. I felt I could really just be myself with him and he liked me for me. I later found out those feelings were mutual.

    For 33 years people told me “you’ll know when it happens” and I thought they were full of it!

    … and then it happened for me. LOL. Ive been converted and now say the same thing

    Post # 4
    Member
    5720 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Chemistry was straight away but love was several months later.  Lust and love are not one and the same for me and I don’t think you can genuinely love someone after a date or two.  

    Post # 5
    Member
    399 posts
    Helper bee

    I remember on our fifth date I mentioned something along the lines of I had previously dated someone who was absolutely lovely but there was no chemistry. My now-boyfriend asked if I thought we had chemistry. I honestly wasn’t sure, but said “yes”. I went away with friends for the weekend after our sixth date, got tipsy, and deleted my dating app. I think that’s when I realized there was something. Normally when you drink you want to chat to more people.

    Post # 6
    Member
    194 posts
    Blushing bee

    mg8301 :  totally experience the same thing with my husband.  he was the first person i dated that i felt like i could be 100% myself around… no worrying that sharing my feelings would “scare him off” or like i needed to hide my nerdy interests or whatever. 

    we had pretty instant chemistry, and i knew within a few months that we would end up married.  we were both in our late twenties and i had dated enough that i knew pretty much right away that this was different.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2011 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    4 years. We were in high school when we met and really good friends. We accidentally fell in love 🤣

    Post # 8
    Member
    1267 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    Pretty much immediately. We met through mutual friends while we were out in a group, I actively avoided him for the first hour or so because I wasn’t in the mood to flirt/be hit on lol. But we were naturally drawn together at some point in the night and began talking, and I realized how awesome he was. We took our relationship very slowly in the beginning, but the chemistry was undeniable from the start.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2390 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    kiram :  we worked together for several years and I didn’t even think twice about him. Thought he was a nice, smart, cool guy but just in passing as an acquaintance.  Then we worked together closely on a project where we were out in the field together 12 hours a day for a week, and I think we were both head over heels with attraction and chemistry by the end of the week!

    Post # 10
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee

    It’s gonna sound weird, but I knew there was a spark after the very first Tinder message. He and I both were risking the dumpster fire of online dating to find something real, and he was funny and cute and I just knew we’d click.

    Post # 11
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    9964 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    First time we saw one another. Kinda like getting hit between the eyes with a hammer. My first thought was “Oh, there you are.”

    Post # 12
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    9734 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We had pretty much instant chemistry and connection. It was about a month between when we met and officially started dating but pretty much everyone around us was like “why aren’t you two just dating already?!” Idk..we just clicked immediately and became pretty much inseparable. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    1214 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

    kiram :  The only “fairytale” feelings I had NEVER worked out in the long term. It was a slow burn with my husband, I actually thought he was boring on our first date lol… however the more we dated, the more I got to know him and realized how great of a guy he is. I was very physically attracted to him from the beginning, but it took a few dates before I was mentally interested. I just had this idea in my head of how sparks were supposed to fly or you’d get a sign from God or something, but that’s not how mature relationships really develop IMO. They are BUILT over time. 

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    1730 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Our connection was instant and the chemistry was definitely there. I probably wouldn’t have hung around if it wasn’t tbh. I never liked wasting my time before so if it wasn’t there on the first date I usually bounced pretty quick. 

    Hubby was a rarity for me because I hadn’t felt that with anyone in a long time. 

    Post # 15
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    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2020

    Immediately. He held the door open for me as we both left the gym and he turned back to smile at me. I went to my car and text my friend “I just met the man Im going to marry”, I hadnt seen him before and we didnt even speak. I just knew. Oh, and i was 41 years old, I had never felt that way or said anything like that before.

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