[Poll] How soon did you feel chemistry with your SO?

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did you feel chemistry with your SO?
    Immediately. There was instant attraction and chemistry. : (109 votes)
    62 %
    I felt immediate attraction, but our relationship had to grow before I felt chemistry : (28 votes)
    16 %
    I didn’t feel attraction OR chemistry until we had gotten to know each other for awhile : (26 votes)
    15 %
    Other/mixed : (12 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 31
    148 posts
    Blushing bee

    We were coworkers for about a year and I liked him as a person, but we were both in serious relationships and honestly he wasn’t my type! When we both became single, it was like something changed. We began flirting and it just evolved from there.  

    Post # 32
    4 posts

    Instant chemisty but it’s not like I thought he was the one. I just enjoyed his company. 

    It was two weeks later that I knew I wanted to marry him. 

    We dated less than 4 months before getting engaged, married 3 months later. 

    Never thought I would be “that person” but… He’s my person. 

    I just…knew. 

    Post # 33
    894 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    We had instant chemistry and attraction, but it wasn’t like “YEP I’M MARRYING HIM”, we just got on really well.

    We met at a football game and jived well, and then found out we both studied abroad in the same country (at different times). The conversation flowed easily. It helped because we both have very similar personalities – outgoing, sarcastic, and goofy, so we had a lot of fun bantering around together.

    Post # 34
    1401 posts
    Bumble bee

    We had instant chemistry in that we got on so well and I knew she was really genuine and a lovely person, I thought she was pretty, but I wasn’t super attracted to her until I got to know her more, that’s happened to me before though and I’ve either become more attracted or less attracted to someone as I’ve got to know them. I just knew from the start she was special and I wanted to carry on seeing her, but I initially had doubts as I didn’t feel like I wanted to “rip her clothes off” so to speak. So I suppose it was a slow burn? 

    Post # 35
    394 posts
    Helper bee

    It was pretty immediate attraction for us. We met under very random circumstances through our jobs and there was an immediate spark, even though it was just a 5 minute interaction for our first time meeting each other. He emailed me the day after that to ask me on a proper date, and during that date we were both wanting to rip the other’s clothes off, which we did a day or two later. 

    Post # 36
    6504 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    There was IMMEDIATE attraction and chemistry from both sides with Dh. I think we both knew we had found the person we wanted to be with in prettry short order.

    There are a lot of women who are able to find someone more attractive as they get to know them, but I’ve never been one of those people. I’ve never dated someone I didn’t feel an instant attraction and chemistry with, simply because there are too many fish in the sea. I knew full well that if I didn’t find one guy attractive, there would be plenty that I DID, so why bother with trying to grow an attraction?

    I’ve had really amazing male friends whose personalities were absolutely fantastic. If I could transplant that personality into an attractive man, I’d be all over that. But their amazing personalities, senses of humor, talents, etc. never made me find them sexually attractive in any way. For me, it has always been there or it hasn’t, and if it wasn’t, I knew that was never going to change.

    Post # 37
    614 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I met my husband and didn’t like him initially haha! He was seeing a, not a friend, but someone I knew, and he was a big show off, loud, single lad! I was just like whatever dude. Then we started to hang out more and we were friends for like a year.. it wasn’t until we became close friends that I saw the real him and then the attraction developed.. the chemistry came as soon as he realized I liked him like that.. 

    Post # 38
    432 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I met my husband at a party when we were both in serious relationships. It wasn’t a romantic connection initially, but there was definitely a feeling of wanting to know him and see him again that I haven’t had with anyone else. 

    Post # 39
    8 posts
    • Wedding: July 2020

    I was a freshman is college when I met my fiancé, and I had never been in a relationship prior to that. However, the night I met him it was an instant connection. We met at a party and we stayed up talking until 5 AM. With every sentence he said he checked off my a box on my mental checklist for my dream guy. When he walked ms home, I thought “oh my God, I’m going to marry this guy”. But I dismissed it because I was only 18, so how would I know! 

    He had a girlfriend at the time we met, but he broke up with her the next time he saw her (he had been wanting to end the relationship, but I guess I was the push he needed 😂). 

    For our entire relationship we have moved really slow, but not because there wasn’t physical chemistry (because there definitely was!) but because we were young and it was my first relationship, so he was always so sweet to never rush anything. By week two of us dating, people were referring to us as a boyfriend and girlfriend, and we hadn’t even had our first kiss. We have just always had this connection and I think everyone else could see it.


    Post # 40
    62 posts
    Worker bee

    Immediately. I saw his picture on FB and it hit me like a ton of bricks that I need to meet him if he was single. I knew him from high school, and didn’t even realize we were friends on FB. I actually reached out to him, something told me this guy was Mr Right. Sure enough, we went out on a date a week later, and it has been the most amazing relationship I have ever had. He is no doubt The One. It is fate or something, it has to be! Had I not been on Facebook that exact time scrolling though, I would have never seen his picture, and never reached out to him. Discussing getting engaged this summer!  🙂

    Post # 41
    3541 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    First time we spoke on the phone I knew he was someone I could spend the rest of my life with. 

    Post # 42
    6233 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I was out dancing with family and friends when he and his friend joined our group. I thought he was extremely handsome right away. I was planning to just enjoy him as a freakishly gorgeous lover until my “real” husband came along. But I fooled around and fell in love. Fortunately, he fell, too.

    Post # 43
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    Physical chemistry was immediate. I first saw my husband at a party and thought, “If I ended up with someone who looks like that, I would be happy for the rest of my life and would never look at another guy again.”

    This was pretty significant because when I was slightly younger, I always kind of had a “wandering eye” or difficulty committing because I would get bored of people and couldn’t really decide what I was physically attracted to the most. So for me to know at first glance was huge. This was also significant because I was actually already in a relationship with someone else, but I wasn’t about to throw away a relationship of 2+ years over lust. I figured we wouldn’t be compatible on a personality level anyway. (But my husband knew we would be even before we talked, just based on watching me interact with other people.)

    Continued to see him at parties/gatherings for the next couple years and had some nice conversations, but I don’t think it really hit me how much mental/emotional chemistry we had until we met up for drinks after my previous relationship had ended. Someone at the bar asked how long we had been together, was shocked to hear we weren’t because we “seemed so comfortable with each other,” and kept insisting that we would end up together. Turns out she was right!

    Post # 44
    33 posts

    The attraction and chemistry was definitely there from the moment I saw him, for the first time, in person. Even while talking to him online before actually meeting, I enjoyed our conversation and was interested, but the actual first date just sealed the entire deal for me. I knew not so long after that, that he was “the one” – and now almost two years later, with so much of our life spent with each other & going through so many different kinds of experiences together with a whole mix of emotions in between…I know more than ever now – that he’s the man I’m meant to spend the rest of my life with. ❤

    Post # 45
    1558 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    I had come out of a really rough relationship that I still wasn’t over when I met my husband. When we started dating, I knew he was attractive and so wonderful. It’s awful to say, but I just kept going on dates with him because he didn’t give me a reason not to (all the others did). I even broke up with him at one point and he just was…wonderful. And I realized I was being a fool and so came the attraction and within a few days/weeks of that the chemistry. Maybe the chemistry was there before but I wasn’t allowing myself to see it. 

    That whole timeline spanned about 3 months. 

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