Post # 16
What I wear (any time) is for myself, not others. I’m not out to impress other people, I’m just living my life.
And as a guest, I’m also not easily wowed because what other people wear affects me none. Good for you for getting a dress you like, but beyond “Oh, you look so beautiful! Congratulations!” I’m too busy drinking, eating, and socializing at your wedding to give any more of a crap than that.
So I pick comfort personally because that’s how I roll. If you like the other one best, then get that one if you are doing it for you, not because of some false sense of being more impressive to others because no one else is going to care after that day.
Post # 17
This is the only chance I’ll get to wear an incredible dress… So I go with wow factor! 🙂
Post # 18
Obviously, things like grimacing or being unable to sit or being really out-of-place in a gown would be deal-breakers, but otherwise I’d go for WOW. People say that life is too short to be uncomfortable, but realistically, you could spend the rest of your life in yoga pants, but your wedding is worth more (at least to me). I’d live with a day of less than slouchy, relax-at-home comfort to look like a million bucks in person and in photos. I’ve spent lots of days in sweatpants; I think I can live without them or their equivalent on my wedding day. I’d go outside of my comfort zone and go for the wow factor.
Post # 19
So long as the comfortable one didn’t look merely comfortable , then yes I’d choose it. As for thinking about how I’d view photos in 50 years time ( 50 years!!? ) well, not a consideration.
Honestly when you look at your photos much later , it much more about oh yes there is nanna looking so sweet , at worst it is a bit of a laugh at the grooms hair or your own veil/puffy skirt etc .
All brides – don’t stress in advance over what you might or might not think of your photos in years to come . Unless there is a serious disaster , you won’t care that much, really you won’t.
Actually , you are more likely to think ‘ wow I looked really good , why on earth did I spend my younger years thinking I was plain /fat/ boring et al.!!”
Post # 20
I wore my comfortable wedding dress for 14 hours and I was still so relieved to get out of it. My dress was also quite light compared to other wedding dresses I tried on but it was still heavy by the end of the evening. I think you’d lose the ‘wow’ factor if you’re grimacing in pain because it’s too heavy or the beading is rubbing.
Post # 21
I would go for the wow factor!
Post # 22
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
Comfort is so important! I want to enjoy my wedding day, and I think if I’m not comfortable, I won’t really be enjoying myself!
Post # 23
I wanted something I would feel comfortable in AND feel sexy. And I got it! But comfort was key.
Post # 24
I had the same choice and I picked comfort. I dont regret it one bit! My dress was still beautiful and it felt more mine because I felt confident in it. I know that my ‘wow’ dress would have left me nervous e.g would my back fat be on show when I sat down, or would I need to keep tugging it, will it dig in when im dancing, would the dress rip at the stomach after I ate dinner (im kidding kinda). My point is the pain and stress about it isnt worth it. Go for comfort because its one less thing to worry about on the day!
Post # 25
elderbee : haha well 50 years is a bit too long. I guess I was thinking more of like possible dress regret? As in you’d probably only have pictures to look at years later so you’d wonder why didn’t you go for the more wow dress that would still stun you years later…but yeah it shouldn’t be something to agonize over for long, I was just curious how many would give up comfort for a dramatic dress that would almost definitely be less comfortable 🙂
Post # 27
Comfort…. and flat(ter) shoes. I’m over 6″ so no need for very high heel anyway.
Post # 28
Comfort! My dress was relatively light and easy to move in. Had great fun interacting with people and dancing throughout the day and into the night. Would have been miserable had it been heavier or tight, or cumbersome to move in, or so intrecate that I would have worried about messing it up.
Post # 29
Can we see pictures of both dresses? If they are equally pretty but one is more comfortable, I’d pick the comfortable one. However, your wedding is the opportunity to wear the most amazing dress you can find, so I’d probably go for looks over comfort, as long as the ‘wow’ dress was comfortable enough to make it through the day.
Post # 30
Since I tend to defer to comfort for my daily clothing, I’d probably choose the wow dress for my wedding. This is assuming it’s within reason and not digging into my side or something. I definitely wouldn’t want to be miserable.