Post # 47
I’ve only been to one other wedding in our area, and it was cash bar. Then again, our friends do not tend to drink much.
For our own wedding, we had a luncheon immediately after the ceremony in Massachusetts, and then a much larger reception back home three days later. At the luncheon, we did not have a separate cocktail hour. We instructed the staff to put out champagne for a toast and red and white wines throughout the meal. We told them that if anyone ordered hard liquor, we would pay for it, but that they were not to suggest it to guests. None of the guests asked for hard liquor, and we got compliments on having real champagne for the toasts.
At the reception, we managed to negotiate $250 for a full open bar for five hours, and went with it. (We got that deal in part because the venue owner is a friend, and knew that our friends weren’t going to drink much.) It was full open bar only as to types of liquor–it didn’t include top-shelf brands–but it was still a bargain.
Post # 48
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’ve been to 4 weddings, all within the northeast (NY, VT, 2 in NJ) and 3 of them were open bar, one of which allowed shots. The fourth one offered wine and beer, no hard alcohol at all (even to pay cash for). I had fun at all of them but there’s no question for us that an open bar is necessary (FH’s dad even gave us some money specifically alloted for booze…)
Post # 49
For us, it always seems to be beer and wine provided, with the option for cash bar.
Post # 50
Almost all the weddings I have been to have been dry, because of my family’s religious beliefs. In my area, I think its fairly accepted to do whatever you want, from dry to completely open, as long as its not a cash bar. I had never heard of drink tickets before Weddingbee and that’s not something I think would go over well. We are having beer and wine and our guests will be perfectly happy with that.
Post # 51
I’m from MA and all of the weddings I’ve been to have been cash bar. I think one had a set amount of money that they put towards the tab; once that was used up, it switched to cash bar.
It is no where within our monetary means to have any sort of open bar, even if it is limited. However, most of our guests are mid-20s and expect alcohol to be available at the wedding. As a result, we will also be having a cash bar. If our venue allows, we might try and put a bottle of wine at each table, but that is all we can afford.
Post # 53
I’m from New England & all wedding vary. I had 5 last summer & I think everyone was different. 1 was completely open bar everything you could imagine. 1 beer & wine only. 1 beer, wine, & sig cocktail. 1 open bar for the cocktail hr only. 1 had beer/wine during the cocktail hr and had wine served w/dinner. I think it just depends on the family/people & how much money they have to spend and/or want to spend on alcohol. My wedding will have beer/wine for the cocktail hour & then a choice or red/white wine served w/dinner…