POLL: Paternity Testing?

posted 3 months ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What would you do if your partner requested a paternity test?

    Grant the test, end the relationship

    Grant the test, continue the relationship as normal

    Grant the test, insist upon relationship counseling

    Not grant the test, thus ending the relationship

  • Post # 136
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    Busy bee

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    Twizbe :  Somwhen exactly would you permit a man to ask for a paternity’s test and find out he isn’t a child’s real father?

    6 months? 2 years? Never? 

    It’s just excuses and hiding behind the child at the expense of the “father”.

    Post # 137
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    Busy bee

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    saratiara2 :  That is the main reason it should be revealed imo yes. But even in another instance, even the most horrible of situations, should it be kept from the man that the child he is raising (or paying child support for) isn’t his biological child? I’m not so sure.

    Since you seem to have trouble empathising with this, I’ll give you a hypothetical situation involving a mother – In the olden days sometimes babies were mixed up in hospitals (those in sick wards and incubation) and a Mother would go home with a child that they hadn’t given birth to, let’s say the hospital found out, should they tell the motheR? What if they found out six months later?

    Post # 139
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    Brideordie :  I don’t see how that question is connected to my comment but ok … he can ask whenever he wants. I’d still be offended that after 16 odd years together and 9 years of marriage my husband decides that I’m a woman who’d trap him into raising another mans child 🤷🏼‍♀️

    I have nothing against a man having a DNA test if there is a genuine doubt but I am against it being a standard after every birth.

     

    Post # 140
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    Brideordie :  for the last time. No one, at any point argued that a man should never be told. 

    What we are saying is that it’s not up to a healthcare provider to decide when he is told.

    And I don’t have trouble empathizing with men. Your comparison is ridiculous. All we’re trying to make you understand is there are reasons the laws and regulations that exist are in place. No one is sitting here 

    Post # 141
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    Brideordie :  for the last time. No one, at any point argued that a man should never be told. 

    What we are saying is that it’s not up to a healthcare provider to decide when he is told.

    And I don’t have trouble empathizing with men. Your comparison is ridiculous. All we’re trying to make you understand is there are reasons the laws and regulations that exist are in place. No one is sitting here high-fiving women for hiding paternity like you seem to think.

    Post # 142
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    Helper bee

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    princessanon0125 :  OMG that is one of the most disturbing things I have read!!! 

    Post # 143
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    anonymousbee001 :  

    Lecturing on these things is her shtick. I used to think she was just a very naive, somewhat  inarticulate person with a penchant for missing the point, but now I think she likes to cause trouble by espousing – usually disguised as a ‘genuinely seeking information  ‘ question – various anti female and/or right wing issues and then posturing as outraged and/or offended  when called out on it . 

    And I’m an idiot for continuing to read her stuff lol.  

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