Post # 1
I’m sure it’s been discussed a lot but polls are so easy guys!
Pretty much, we are having an evening reception in doors. Our venue is offering buffet vs plated meals for the same price.
I used to be a banquet chef and from experience I know that you will get wayyyyy more food from a buffet, but one of my family members posed a question to me.
Are you really paying for people to gorge themselves? Or just to have a meal??
With plated meals, comes many others things like seating arrangements and getting people to pick chicken over beef.
I’m also having 100 people.
I kinda think it COULD be cool, but goodness with a buffet you get as much as you want. If we did plated, I’d have to feel like I’d need to pay for cheese and cracker tables and fruit tables as well.
Can you please share your personal experiences with this?
Post # 3
I will always choose buffets over plated. I’ve only been to one plated wedding and it was awful (partially because no one could tell us WHAT the meals were outside of, “Um…chicken? I think? Beef? Vegetarian?”). I’m a picky eater, though, so at a buffet, I can take more of something else if I don’t like something that’s available. With a plated, I’m stuck with whatever, and if I don’t like it, I’ll end up hungry.
Post # 4
I had the same choice also and I chose buffet. You get more food. Also, my venue will leave the food out for about two hours which gives any late stragglers the opportunity to eat also.
Post # 5
You pose a very good point. Not being served the correct amount or a questionable entree meat is not agreeable either
What I keep hearing from people is the possibility of a long line. Which is sort of an odd thing to worry about.
Post # 6
What kind of plated meal is it? Where I’m from, a plated meal means an appetizer, a starter, the entree, and dessert, you still get PLENTY of food, and it’s just seen as much classier and formal (I’ve personally never been to a wedding with a buffet…granted I haven’t been to many weddings, but buffets just aren’t seen as fancy enough, even for a casual wedding, in my personal circle it seems, since it’s never done…buffets are saved for milestone bday celebrations and graduation parties and work holiday parties, weddings are always plated, I obviously know that’s not how it goes everywhere for everybody though! Things like this are so personal and regional!). My wedding was sit down and plated and we had a half salad/half soup starter, plus a penne vodka pasta plate, plus the meat (or veggie) entree guests chose, plus cupcakes baklava and a candy bar for dessert, not to mention passed hors d’oeuvres during cocktail hour. The only person hungry there was me because I was too nervous to eat, lol. But if you only had an entree…do people really need more than one plate of food for dinner? Seriously?
Post # 7
I prefer plated because I hate waiting in line for food, especially in a dress and heels. It always reminds me of little piggies at the feeding troth lol. But I’m not a picky eater at all, so I’m pretty easily pleased. If people are picky I can see where a plated dinner is not appealing.
Post # 8
I always choose plated over buffets. I think they are much classier, I don’t want to be standing around in my dress and heels waiting in line for food. I have never heard of a single person leaving a sitdown dinner hungry, there is always still plenty of food. We have having a salad, appetizer, pasta course and duel plate of filet mignon and lobster tail, then cake and pastries. We will also have the waiters asking how you like your meat cooked, and if you would just like the meat or just the lobster.
I actually hate buffets in all settings – weddings, social events, restaurants, college dining hall…
Post # 9
I’ve only been to one plated reception as well, and while the food was delicious, there was NO choice, so if you didn’t like steak that is cooked medium, well you just didn’t get to eat. It worked out ok in that situation because it was a family member of mine so I knew pretty much everyone there, but I always thought it would be awkward to go to a plated dinner reception of someone I wasn’t as close with because I would be stuck sitting with god knows who for god knows how long.
When I went to the plated meal reception, I felt like I was attached to my seat and I really didn’t get to walk around and talk to people. I feel like with a buffet and an open seating plan, people are encouraged to walk around and mingle more. So I guess it really just depends on what “feel” you want for your wedding. If you want a more formal setting where everyone is sitting down eating at the same time, then do plated. If you want more of a cocktail party/mingly feel, so with buffet.
As a guest, I like buffets because there is more of a variety of food and you get to sit with whomever you want (As long as there is enough seating for everyone)
Post # 10
@DarthBetty: I love buffets, as long as there is 1 complete buffet line for every 30-50 guests. I’m a picky eater, plus I have food allergies, so buffets are really much more my style. I only like plated meals if they’re done right (i.e. everyone’s plate is served simultaneously), and I’ve only been to one wedding that did this (service a la russe).
Post # 11
I will never ever vote for a buffet. I prefer plated meals. And I have been to both,
Post # 12
We had a buffet. Our caterer was a small business that my husband and I frequented while we were dating. The owner gave us a great deal. The food is fresh and freekin delicious. They grilled everything right there. We had chicken and steak kabobs, mac n’ cheese (that sh*t is the bomb btw), salad, fruit and drinks. We had about 120 guests and things went very smoothly while getting everyone fed. There were a few people that were not ashamed to get back up and get seconds. I also felt great giving that owner the money.
As far as other people’s wedding, I do not have a preference. I love food and I will eat pretty much anything you give me.
Post # 13
I will say that I’ve been to wedding buffets that have been bad, but that was more on the food choices and specific caterers than the fact that it was a buffet. One had only one entree option, which happened to be a VERY spicy Indian dish. I love spicy food, and I love Indian food, but this was WAY too spicy for just about everyone, including the children who were there. The other was an awful caterer all around–they were constantly in the way, the food was cold and unidentifiable (apparently the odd-looking lump in one of the trays was supposed to be turkey? but no one bothered to cut it), they were sticking their bare fingers into the slices as they were cutting the cake, they didn’t have enough of some things for everyone, and the kicker is that the owner of the company heard we were getting married and tried to convince us to use her! LOLNOWAY. We already had that booked, thankfully.
In order to have a successful buffet, you have to have heated serving dishes, a competent staff, label everything (or have a menu board), and have VARIETY. Also, have someone from the staff have tables go up one by one. I’ve only been to two that didn’t do this, and that was because they didn’t have any staff to do so (either family members made the food or a caterer made the food and just dropped it off).
Thankfully, our venue has a lovely buffet set up and staff comes with the rental.
Post # 16
Buffet. You get more variety and the option to go back to the line for MORE food.
I’m obviously biased because we had a buffet at our wedding. It was probably the best wedding food I’ve ever tasted (again, I’m biased.) But then a LOT of people commented that our food was awesome.