(Closed) Settle the debate – do guests get thank you cards just for attending?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do guests get thank you cards for just coming to the wedding if they don't bring a gift?
    Yes : (216 votes)
    52 %
    No : (194 votes)
    46 %
    Other -- I'll explain below. : (8 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 122
    Member
    6441 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Absolutely, all guests receive a thank you. It is (or ought to be) gift enough that people took time out of their busy lives to attend the wedding; it truly is the thought that matters. People being there to support us in person meant more than gifts ever could, and we felt it was important to thank everyone – all those who attended, all those who sent gifts or cards but could not attend, and all those who brought gifts in addition to attending. 

    One more excuse not to send thank you notes is not what anyone needs, IMO. I’ve attended (and given gifts at) several weddings and never received a note to acknowledge they even received the gift. Thank you notes are more and more rare, it seems, and I think a wedding is not the place to risk a breach of etiquette. 

    Post # 123
    Member
    102 posts
    Blushing bee

    @chouette:  I think you thank them with cocktails and a meal!

     

    Post # 124
    Member
    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I do not know what etiquette says but I will be sending everyone thank you cards. I just think it is a nice way to let people know that you enjoyed having them at your wedding.

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