- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Ok, so here’s the deal. I generally work at one place for long lengths of time.
I moved from NY to SC in Dec and I started a new job here. I LOVE IT here. I love the place I live, I love my job and I love the people I work with.
I have so far gotten pretty close with 3 particular girls who are around my age and are just really fun, cool people. We talk every day, do lunch together in each other’s offices and we have hung out a few times outside of work (and we talk outside of work, too). There’s also a new girl who just started, also around our age, and she’s in my office with me and we will probably share an office for a while and we’ve clicked so far, but I’ve known her for like a month – I just like her a lot already.
Since I’m doing the Public Interest Loan Forgiveness program, I plan to stay here another 7-10 years (not sure if the first 3 years at my last job will count or not), if they’ll keep me of course. I also love my supervisor and the boss. They’re really, genuinely great people.
Now, I’m having a destination wedding – date not set yet, but it’s looking like June 29 or July 3 or 5, 2014. It’s less than a year away and since the date isn’t set yet, STDs have not yet gone out. I’ve literally just started planning it. My FI proposed to me the day before my job interview where I work now, so I came in right off the bat engaged at this job and haven’t really discussed any wedding details.
My thoughts are – that I should really invite at least the people that I’m close with at my job. The 3 girls, 1 new girl, supervisor, boss, and this one other couple (husband and wife) who work together in our office (the wife is my mentor) and I really like them and feel closer to them, too.
Now, I’m not super close to these people right now by any means, but I feel like if I continue to work here and continue to go to work events (we have annual events where we all go away together for a few days and parties throughout the year), we’re going to get much closer – the office is pretty great and a lot of the people are best friends out of the office and it’s like a big family – and these are people who will probably end up in my life in the future.
Almost everyone (except new girl) was married before I moved here, so I have no idea what the etiquette is for inviting people bc no one else has invited anyone.
I think I should invite at least those people I mentioned – which means an extra 14 adults, plus some children. I figure most people will not be able to come anyway and if they do, they are all really fun party people.
And even though I’m having a destination wedding, it will cost me per head for all those who do come. I will have to pay for food and alcohol for each person who comes, because I’m not having the actual reception at the all inclusive hotel.
Would you ladies invite these people? If you would, would you send them STDs or just tell them the date of your wedding and send them invites when people start RSVPing no (I don’t know that many of my guests will RSVP no since most of them are close family and friends only – my list is like 40 people to include both sides and that’s really only the people who I really think could/would make it)?
TL;DR: I have a new job that I’ve been at for 7 months, plan to stay for a long time. I’ve made a few friends here (different state, so all my other friends are back home). Should I invite my new friends and my bosses to my small destination wedding in June/July 2014 (have to pay for them at the wedding) or no because I am not that close to them, yet – even though I might be since I will be here at least 7-10 years (unless I get fired or move again, which doesn’t seem to be the plan)?