Post # 31
Sansa85 : Thanks a bunch, you’ve been really helpful. I think it’s worth switching my approach on it to be a bit more passive. I might push to see her after work more to just chill, rather than feeling the need to run to my folks every time she’s feeling a bit lonely.
Who knows, this meeting on Tuesday might be the offer of work I’m looking for – so I might join their ranks. I get the feeling there is a job offer on the table, as she told me her boss is really looking forward to it.
Post # 32
sbl99 : I’m glad you found this to be helpful, I only know what worked for me, and how I feel when it’s a really bad time.
I think spending more time with her and checking in with her is a good way to go, like you said, get her to run to you instead of your mom
Post # 33
- Wedding: September 2020 - City, State
No. She needs to speak to her boss herself. Failing that, she needs to get a new job! You don’t work there anymore, and I think it would actually be a bit bizarre if you were to go in and tell your boss your sister is being overworked!
Post # 34
No, don’t speak to her boss. Aside from the fact that your sister needs to advocate for herself, I can picture many ways this could backfire on her AND you.
If a former employee of mine reached out to me to discuss a current employee who happens to be their sister, my professional opinion of the former employee would drop through the floor. I’m not going to discuss my current staff with former staff. To start that conversation is presumptuous as all get-out…. I would not recommend that person asking me for a professional reference after that conversation.
If my current employee’s family tried to negotiate on the current employee’s behalf, my professional opinion of that current employee would drop through the floor. If this is a part-time replaceable employee, it would do their longevity no favors– and you’d better believe that scene would come up if I got a call for a reference.
If an employer is unfair enough to expect unpaid labor from your sister, they certainly are unfair enough to hold your actions against her.
Post # 35
WTF? No. Your sister is an adult. It’s not your place to meddle in her career.
Post # 36
sbl99 : I voted no… BUT I do think you can help by having more conversations with your sister and empowering her to speak up for herself or leave the job for one that is better suited to her. Continue to talk to her, hang out with her, and support her… even if she is not making the choices you would ideally want her to make.
Why is she working 5 days and only getting paid for 3? That makes no sense.
Tbh with what you’ve described regarding your sister’s anxiety and how this is affecting her, I hope that she is making the time to see a therapist. I think that could massively help manage her stress as well as her anxiety, in addition to being a place where a trained professional would be able to work with her on developing skills, such as standing up for herself at work.
TwilightRarity : Actually I also like your idea regarding how the OP could broach this with the boss.