Poll: Sister engaged, will I be a bridesmaid? How long did you wait to ask BMs?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: When did you ask bridesmaids?
    less than a week? : (9 votes)
    21 %
    less than a month? : (5 votes)
    12 %
    less than 3 months? : (29 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 31
    Member
    2802 posts
    Sugar bee

    Most people settle on the date and venue first and then ask people to be bridesmaids between 6 months – a year. Not everyone even has bridesmaids these days so they probably need to decide what kind of wedding they’re going to have and how big it will be first. 

    Also – I actually totally forgot to ask my three sisters to be bridesmaids and assumed they already knew… so I didn’t actually tell/ask them until like 4 months after I got engaged (6 mos from wedding) even though they were there when it happened (OOPS)

    Post # 32
    Member
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    We’re having a 2.5 month engagement that just started, and I have no plans to ask anyone soon. Like other bees mentioned, I want to have a date/venue set first, plus it’s just so far out at this point, it’s hard to say if I’ll be this close to some of my friends as I am now. 

    My sister I will formally ask as soon as I see her in person again, but everyone else I will likely wait a year or more to ask.

    Post # 33
    Member
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

    ambernicole28 :  2019?! My friends can barely think past 6 months out tongue-outyell

    Post # 34
    Member
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019

    akshali2000 :  LOL Yes, this would generally be the case. However, the majority of my bridal party just got married and were trying to plan pregnancies. Because I asked so early, most of them got pregnant now so that they wouldn’t have to worry about it when they were in the wedding. My friends and I are a bunch of planners. 

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