(Closed) Sister or best friend for MOH?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who would you choose?
    Sister - she's family. : (22 votes)
    36 %
    Best friend - the less stress the better! : (13 votes)
    21 %
    Both! - just give most of the responsibility to the best friend. : (26 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would go with your sister. I think she would be really hurt if you went with your best friend over her b/c she’s family…and your sister! Is she your only sister? Also, is your best friend married? If so, you can do a maid of honor and a matron of honor…

    Post # 4
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    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I have many friends who have always had a “threesome” of best friends so they had 2 maid of honors. It’s your wedding, have 2 maid of honors!

    Post # 5
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    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    pick who you want to pick. my best friend is my maid of honor and i don’t think my sister cares one bit. and the reason i think that is because my sister chose her best friend as her maid of honor and i was a bridesmaid. it didn’t matter to me at all that she chose her friend.i was still part of her day and that mattered more to me than a title! :O)

    Post # 6
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Go with two. There is no rule that says you can only have one Maid/Matron of Honor. I’m having a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor (technically my older sister would be a maid of honor since she’s divorced but hey. whateve)

    Post # 7
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    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My sister did not choose me as hers. Seven years later, it still stings.

    Post # 9
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would go with your sister.   I went to an anniversary party a few months ago and they had pictures up of the wedding, 50years ago, and everyone still was asking … why was your sister not the Maid/Matron of Honor.  50years? (we’re catholic, the sister married a man that was divorced making her persona non grada at the wedding).  It was weird because my dad’s cousin, the “bride” couldn’t remember one of the BM’s names and hadn’t spoken to the Maid/Matron of Honor since a few days after her wedding.  but her sister, who wasn’t even invited to the wedding … was right there with her whole family.

    Post # 11
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    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Looking back on it, I understand why she didn’t. I was in college and my bf at the time was a real toolbag. We’re very close now and she kind of appointed herself my MOH! But to be honest, I was embarassed at the time.

    I feel so bad saying this because it is your decision but yes it was painful when she chose her best friend over me.

    Post # 12
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Definitely your sister. You will always have your sister you do not know that you will always have your best friend – as hard as that is to think about at this point in time!

    Post # 14
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    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have both my sisters as matrons of honor, so I say go with 2!

    Post # 15
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    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Just keep in mind that all your maids are required to do is buy the dress (and sometimes not even that, depending) and show up. Any other involvement on their part is just gravy, and though it would be nice, shouldn’t be expected.

    I’m not implying you’re planning to treat your Maid/Matron of Honor as a slave, but when you say things like “I think I’ll go with both of them. It’s probably the only way to get a helpful MOH”, warning bells go off in my head. Being Maid/Matron of Honor should be an honour, not a job.

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