Poll: SOs parents visiting, TINY apartment, chances of survival?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Will I survive the next 1.5 weeks?
    Yes, you'll be fine! Keep your head up! : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Meh, it'll be a struggle but you'll pull through! : (26 votes)
    34 %
    No...death is upon you! Sleep in your office! Hide! Run! Cower! : (46 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    2705 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    I would be saying NO right now. And I love my in laws.

    Post # 19
    Member
    1125 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 1983

    You will go mad. These visits are much too long, and no one will have any peace or privacy. Guests should stay in hotels. If they can’t afford a hotel and a flight, they can come every other year instead of every year. And a month is insane–merciless.

    You, too, have a culture. It involves–or should involve–doing what is best for your nuclear family.

    Strongly urge you to go to DWIL for support in modifying all these excessive assumptions about extended family take-over of your life, space, and children.

    Post # 20
    Member
    176 posts
    Blushing bee

    I couldn’t do this personally, not even with my own parents let alone in-laws! But reading your updates with why this is happening… it is what it is. Hang in there! You can do it!

    Post # 22
    Member
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    You’ll survive!! At least you won’t be at home a lot of the time, lol. 

    We visited my DH’s family in Eastern Europe. They had a 3 room place (2 tiny bedrooms and 1 tiny living room/kitchen). We had 8 people in there and a small dog. My biggest problem was that we were squeezed in a tiny bedroom with my Mother-In-Law who loudly snores! 

    Another time, we stayed with a friend of DH’s in Manhattan. There were 4 of us in a place with one tiny living room, another tiny room, and a small kitchen. We stayed for a week. 

    It could be worse. You could all be sharing a tent. 

    Post # 23
    Member
    12814 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

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    runnergal :  You are a better person than me. If a hotel isn’t an option, I’d be looking to stay with friends for at least a few of those days. 

    Post # 25
    Member
    5088 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    You’ll survive. We’ve stayed with my parents in an RV for that amount of time, it was fine. We’ve given up our bed for my parents when they visited before we had a guest room, including the night of our wedding, it was fine. Some of the responses are pretty dramatic, it’ll be an inconvenience, but it’s 9 days of your year and you’ll be gone most of the day anyway. Maybe I just feel differently because my family isn’t well off and nobody could afford 9 days in a hotel, it’s commonplace to stay with relatives.

    Post # 26
    Member
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would lose my mind if my in laws stayed for 9 days. Were you asked about this in advance?

    Post # 28
    Member
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    runnergal :  The bathroom thing is what makes this really untenable. So you have to creep past your inlaws in bed to pee in the middle of the night???? Whose parents would actually be ok with that??

     

    Post # 29
    Member
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Omg no… no… noooope. Nope nope nope nope nooooo. Hell no. I love my inlaws but we live in a 1 bedroom apt and anyting over 2 nights 3 days would be too much. Noooope. 

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