(Closed) POLL – Thursday summer wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What do you think of the Thursday date?

    It's your day, choose whatever date you want!

    It will be inconvenient for some but people will come in the summer

    That will be very inconvenient for your guests.

  • Post # 2
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Our wedding day is a wednesday, 50 day guests invited, 49 RSVPd as attending. It’s your day and if the people you are inviting want to see you get married, it’s worth a day off

    Post # 3
    4044 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    mmnnhh:  I think that the people who want to be there will be there. They may bitch and moan (probably not to you) but they will attend! You know your crowd best – so if you think they’ll be okay with a Thursday – go for it. 

    Post # 5
    395 posts
    Helper bee

    I actually had a coworker (older generation too) who suggested a Thursday wedding.  She said it’s totally normal now to have a weekday wedding, and guests understand because of the astronomical cost of weddings.  Off-season, off-weekend are less expensive and your guests that want to be there with you will go regardless of time/date/location if it is within their power to do so.

    Post # 6
    683 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Weekday weddings are not normal. They are less expensive for a reason

    Post # 7
    5879 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Choose whatever date works for you. But manage your expectations and don’t get upset when people who you know “have time off or work PT” RSVP no. 

    Post # 8
    2865 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    mmnnhh:  I’d be pissed. That’d be 2 days off of work for me. I just wouldn’t be able to swing it for anyone but a family member.

    Post # 9
    1754 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    mmnnhh:  My cousin was married on a weekday. I was not able to attend even though I wanted to be there.

    You can get married on whatever date you’d like, but weekdays are, in general, more inconvenient than weekends for most guests. 

    If you decide to prioritize a special date over your guests’ convenience, that’s your perogative. But please don’t assume that if and when guests decline it is because they don’t love you enough or they don’t want to be there. There are few things that make me feel more rage-y than this attitude.

    (Not saying this is how you feel, OP, but this point inevitably always comes up in the this conversation.)

    Post # 10
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I would come to your wedding no matter what day it was on…I probably just wouldn’t stay at the reception as late as I would during a weekend wedding.

    Post # 11
    244 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    What did you end up doing? I’m curious I we’re looking at having a thursday wedding but all the negative nancy’s on wedding bee have made me conscious about the decision (though we’ve had assurance from most of our invited guests that they don’t care when or when, they’ll be there). How did it turn out? How did your guests feel?   

    Post # 12
    8 posts

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    kaelasoul:  I’m curious too! I’m looking at Thursdays. Have you already booked a date?

    Post # 13
    30393 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999


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    xnxo:  Given that neither of you tagged the OP, I wouldn’t hold your breath for an answer. I don’t think there are too many Bees who review their old posts to see if anyone had a follow up query.

    If you click on her username you can see if she is even still active on the Boards.

    Post # 15
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    mmnnhh:  omg your wedding was beautiful! This makes my heart so joyful! We bit the bullet a few weeks ago and went with a Thursday in June 2017. I’m so thrilled to hear about how your wedding went. I’ve had some crazy looks when I’ve mentioned the date but I’m not worried about it! I hope your marriage has been amazing and will continue to be! Thank you for replying I feel so much better about our decision now.

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