(Closed) POLL: What age were you when you conceived or want to be TTC?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
  • poll: At what age were you when you conceived/want to be TTC?
    18-23 : (15 votes)
    6 %
    23-28 : (88 votes)
    32 %
    28-33 : (131 votes)
    48 %
    33-38+ : (37 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I’m 25, he’s 29, we plan on “gambling” 1 year from now. Would like kids before 28.

    Post # 17
    Member
    1401 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We plan to TTC around our first anniversary. I’ll be 27, Darling Husband will be 28. Ideally, we’d have two by the time I’m 30. fingers crossed!!

    Post # 18
    Member
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016 - 1950s themed bar

    My Fiance is 30 and I’m 26 when we get married in a couple months, and I am already getting clucky. I’m at university to become a teacher and will graduate end of next year, when I’m 27, then will teach for two years to become registered. I always wanted to have my first by or on 30, and Fiance wants 4 kids. So I think we will definitely be TTC at the end of that registration process, so just before my 30th birthday. I want to TTC by 30 just to have better chances of conceiving. My mum had me when she was 30 and I feel that we have a good relationship. 

    It’s very hard though because we still have a lot of travelling we want to do and I would love to buy a house in the next 5 years, but we have no money right now with me being a student. I do believe that young children are actually not that expensive, it all depends how you want to do it, so I’m not worried about finances as such, it’s more that I want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom and it feels like a waste of all my study and career change by taking off work so soon after graduating. At the same time though I know I’ll be able to return to it once they are in school/a little older, and if I wanted to I could possibly do a masters or some leadership papers while I’m Stay-At-Home Mom which will give me better opportunities when I go back. Sorry, this turned out a little longer than planned! Definitely something I think about a lot but at the end of the day, we get pregnant when it happens and we’ll go from there

    Post # 19
    Member
    3008 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Futurecalise:  we started trying for our first when I was 31, he was born when I was 32. If all goes as planned I’ll be 35 when our second arrives. I wouldn’t have wanted to be any younger when I became a parent, but that’s just me personally!

    Post # 20
    Member
    3305 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ll be 30 when we get married, probably 31 when we start TTC. I want to be done with pregnancy by the time I am 35 and we want 2 kids.

    Post # 21
    Member
    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We started trying on my 28th birthday and I really wanted to have a kid by 30. As i’m now 29 and a half  and still not successfully pregnant I won’t be hitting the cut off which does bug me. Even though I know it’s just a number I hate that I will now be in my 30s when I really wish I could have tried from a much younger age but it just didn’t work out that way. No guarantees in this fertility game! 

    Post # 22
    Member
    346 posts
    Helper bee

    Ideally I’ll be between 32-34 when we begin trying. I’m very career driven and have a clear cut path carved out for myself before I even think about having kids. We plan to have our kids with a small window of time between the two (unless we have twins, which I secretly hope will happen). My Fiance is onboard with the plan so yea us!

    Post # 23
    Member
    42 posts
    Newbee

    housebee:  How wonderful for you! We are 31, not married until next year. Have accomplished all the things you mentioned but we are going to possibly try when we are both 37, maybe for one child but are both ok not having any.

    Post # 24
    Member
    1272 posts
    Bumble bee

    Ideally, we’d be married when I’m 30. I’d like to try to start having a kid probably before I’m 32. That way if it takes us a little longer to conceive or we run into issues then we have some time to figure it out. My personal cutoff for having kids is 35, since fertility drops and risk of issues with the baby/birth goes up. Plus I don’t want to be a much older parent… not that there is anything wrong with them, just not my preference.

    Post # 25
    Member
    2021 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Me 26, Darling Husband 30. Currently 26 weeks. We wanted to have our house, stable jobs, debt paid off and travel done before TTC. ✔️

    Post # 26
    Member
    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

    I’m 24 and in medical school so that is a huge factor. We’ll be married when I’m 25 and he’s 26. Assuming a 3 year residency program and no fellowship the earliest I’ll be TTC is 32-33. He did mention recently that he wouldn’t mind having one now but with me in school and him paying off his student debt that just is not possible. 

    Post # 27
    Member
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    We’re still on the fence about children, but I’m leaning toward yes when we’re older (and he’s fine with that).  I’m currently 23 and my Fiance is 37, so we do have to think about when he would feel “too old” to be a dad.  I think 30-33 would be the sweet spot – we’ll have 6-9 more years to just be happy together, travel, grow our savings, and buy a house.

    I am terribly indecisive and having a child is the one thing you absolutely can’t undo, so I would want to be in an ideal place in my life to have a child.  If that never happens, then we probably won’t have children!

    Post # 28
    Member
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m 25 and Darling Husband is 27, been married a year. We’ve always said we want to have our first child (up to 3 total) before he’s 30. For both of us the baby fever is getting worse and worse, but I decided to go back to school and at the earliest I’ll graduate when he is 30 and I’m almost 29. It’s so frustrating, and I might just wait on school if soon Darling Husband becomes really successful in his rather unpredictable career, but if not, my having the career this degree is for would make the lives of our children so much more stable. I just wish I had thought of this when I was 22!

    Post # 29
    Member
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    We were 20 when our little surprise was conceived. Not an ideal time in our life, but we’re making it work. No regrets.

    The original “plan” was to have one after I was finished school/we were married/owned a house/had stable jobs… so probably somewhere around 27-30. Oh well. I want to try for another one in 2018 (we’ll be 26) so the kids aren’t ridiculously far apart in age.

    Post # 30
    Member
    489 posts
    Helper bee

    This thread caught my eye as its something Ive been talking about recently with friends/family/FI.. 

    When I was early 20s, it was

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