Post # 1
Me and my friends had a heated discussion in regards to honeyfunds today. Opinions were varied on them, and I have seen the harsh statements around them on this and other wedding sites. Just for fun, if you saw a couple that had a honeyfund only (no registry or someone that had a bridal registry and took it down right after their shower), what would you gift them?
Post # 2
I would just do the honeyfund. The service fee is annoying, but if the bride and groom have chosen a honeyfund I’d assume they get that part of my contribution would go for that, so whatever. In general though I’m more than happy to contribute to someone’s honeymoon! That seems more fun to me than a blender or something.
Post # 3
So many couples are living together for a bit before marriage so they already have their crap. I’m not going to force more kitchen crap on them if they don’t want it. Team honeyfund.
Post # 4
I’d do the honey fund, I suck at picking out gifts so if there’s not a registry for me to choose from I’m not going to go try and pick something out myself. I would also hate to give something to someone that they don’t want or need, it’s a waste of money.
Post # 5
Starfish55 : I gift an item $100 – $50 for the shower and then $200+ check/cash for the wedding.
If someone just has a honeyfund and no shower and doesn’t rub the cash ask in my face I’ll still give cash for the wedding. If they had a shower (for cash or gift cards) I wouldn’t attend but still give cash for the wedding. If they are acting cash grabby with poems and repeated reminders I’d give nothing at the wedding.
I probably wouldn’t notice if they had a strawman registry for the shower that disappears for the wedding.
FWIW I only received 2 gifts for my wedding and the rest were all cash.
Post # 6
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I agree with PP that so many people are living together and are already established that they don’t need items. I’m def team honeyfund as you’re helping gift them with another amazing memory centered around their big day and really helping them to soak up being newlyweds! It’s always nice to gift someone with something that you know they will get use out of and enjoy 🙂
Post # 7
As long as there is no mention of it on the invitation, they will get a check like I would give at every wedding regardless of registries.
Post # 8
I’d rather gift them $200, than $180. And you aren’t buying them a “dinner on the beach” or “snorkeling trip,” you are giving them cash.
Post # 9
I don’t get the honeyfund thing. Around here I think most people give $ at a wedding and a honeyfund takes a cut.
Post # 10
I’ll give them what they asked for via the medium they asked.
Post # 11
I just write a check. Not a fan of honeyfunds bc of the fees and I feel like it’s just a cutesy way of the couple asking for cash. Whoever runs honeyfund must be making bank just sitting around collecting all those fees.
Post # 12
I always write a check so it’s unlikely I’d even see the honey fund option unless they were tacky enough to put it on the invite. And I’m not a fan of the service fees. Like a PP said – I’d rather give $200 than $180. I think honeyfunds are a bit of a scam to be honest. You’d end up with more money if you just didn’t use one and you’d use it for the exact same thing just no middle man getting a cut.
Post # 13
Starfish55 : If there’s a service fee, guests should just reduce the amount that they’re giving. I don’t understand the issue with asking people to pay for an experience, rather than buy wasteful junk that’s going to sit in a closet for decades. I personally couldn’t create a registry if I tried. I’m just not into “stuff”. Granted, we basically eloped and definitely didn’t ask for gifts. But if we’d had a “real wedding”, a honey fund would have made the most sense for us. We like traveling, and we already have enough stuff.
Post # 14
I really don’t understand the issue that people have with honeymoon funds. The idea is that you are buying an experience for someone rather than a physical object. I don’t see how it is any more or less like “giving cash” as buying someone something off of their registry. Regardless of whether you buy the person a $50 massage or a $50 vacuum (that they picked out and told you to buy), you could argue that you are basically just giving them $50 in cash. And sure, there is a service fee for honeymoon funds, but there is also a shipping fee if you buy a registry item for someone off of a website. I have yet to hear a legitimate argument against honeymoon funds. IMO – Get people what they ask for – it’s their wedding