Poll: What would you gift if a couple only had a honeyfund.

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What gift would you give if the couple only had a honeyfund?
    I would contribute to the honeyfund. No issues with it whatsoever. : (98 votes)
    37 %
    I would give them either cash/check. I am not paying service fees! : (135 votes)
    50 %
    I would give them a physical gift of my choosing- you shouldnt be asking for cash! : (17 votes)
    6 %
    I would give them a gift card (happy medium, right?) : (10 votes)
    4 %
    I would give them nothing. : (8 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 61
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

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    weddingmaven :  that’s a bit harsh – most people are honest and will spend it on what they say they will. If not you’ve got the wrong friends.

    I don’t think anyone is ‘entitled’ to anything be it a toaster, a holiday or an engraved teaspoon. The point is it’s nice to gift someone the thing they want. 

    I am astounded that the view about travel and holidays is that it’s a lifestyle choice and a crazy exotic and irrational expense. Much better to stay home with the toaster scrubbing floors till you can afford a nice little long weekend in a caravan park. It’s amazing how travel can broaden the mind…

    ‘Most people’ do not object to people ‘soliciting cash’ if the person is not ‘impoverished’. What a way to put it!

    You might. Most people do not now that we’ve arrived headlong in 2019. It’s crazy to say they deserve a toaster they don’t need because they already have 2, but they don’t deserve £50 for something they actually want because they have had the cheek to ask for it.

    I tend to go with doing things for my friends and family that will make them happy rather than imposing my views on them. If anyone buys me a toaster I can promise you I won’t be using it because no matter how much you think you know best, it is entirely surplus to requirements and a complete waste of money. 

    Post # 62
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I have no problem with a Honeyfund. I’d rather give cash that I know they can use rather than some kitchen gadget that will never get unpacked. The service fee is their problem. 

    I really don’t understand why people get so worked up over this issue. It just seems like an excuse to be judgmental.

    Post # 63
    7422 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Truly bewildered by the “but they might spend the money on something else!” logic. Do you also get offended if you buy someone a coffee maker and they exchange it for something different? 

    Post # 64
    4411 posts
    Honey bee

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    windycitywedding2019 :  Are you just ignoring my posts completely?  I said I would RATHER give cash than donating to a honeyfund.  Sorry that I would rather give someone $200 than $195. That way they can do WHATEVER THEY want with it.  Buy a Lamborghini or buy a dinner on the beach.  It’s free money without being charged a fee.

    Can I bang my head against the wall any harder?  

    Edited for windycitywedding2019 

    Post # 65
    70 posts
    Worker bee

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    sharpshooter :  I think you’re confusing yourself. Maybe go grab a glass of wine and calm down. Have a nice day.

    Post # 67
    70 posts
    Worker bee

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    sharpshooter :  Well happy birthday. But there is no need to swear at other users or to be rude. We were all having a productive conversation – there was no need for you to take it to that level and to attack others.

    Post # 70
    70 posts
    Worker bee

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    sharpshooter :  actually, it’s against the policy on this site to act like that (specifically to swear at other users). so maybe calm down next time.

    Post # 73
    10429 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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    sharpshooter :  please be more respectful to other posters!

    Post # 74
    1290 posts
    Bumble bee

    The only wedding gift I’ve ever given is cash/check, I don’t do physical gifts for weddings.  Honeyfunds do not offend me personally.  So I could go either way. I might be more apt to do honeyfund since I could do the transaction on my phone while waiting for an oil change or sitting in a Dr’s waiting room and save myself from going to an atm machine or writing a check.  The transaction fee doesn’t deter me either.  

    Post # 75
    21 posts

    They will get nothing from me. I find asking for cash rude, if you’re going to be so crass to ask for money, you shouldn’t mind if I give nothing. 

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