POLL – Who gave a speech at your wedding?

posted 10 months ago in Reception
  • poll: Who gave a speech at your wedding?
    Just the maid of honor and best man : (25 votes)
    36 %
    The maid of honor, best man, and father of the bride : (15 votes)
    21 %
    So many! Even the bride and the groom and parents and grandparents! : (5 votes)
    7 %
    Other (explain below) : (25 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 32
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    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We ended up having far more “speeches” than originally planned because people asked and our family dynamic. 

    Originally, we planned on having father of the bride, Best Man, and Maid/Matron of Honor give “speeches.” My Darling Husband ended up giving an impromptu speech at his sister’s wedding the year before (they asked him the night before the wedding if he would like to say anything) so we felt the need to extend the same thing to his sister at our wedding. (they were both in each other’s wedding so it wasn’t like a “guest” just standing up to speak.) This was the only addition and “break” from tradition we were going to have.

    Then, DH’s father asked if he could say a few words as well. He had officiated DH’s sister’s wedding so I think he felt like since he wasn’t officiating ours, he needed to say something, although that was from his own feelings nothing we pushed on him. Of course we wouldn’t say no, so he also spoke. None of the “speeches” were terribly long, and while I somewhat cringe thinking about the guests at our wedding sitting through 5 different speakers, I also remember that it was our day and it didn’t bother us at all, having people who love us so much wanting to share. I think as long as anyone isn’t up there speaking for 5+ minutes do what works for you!

    Post # 33
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    47175 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Part of the variance in feelings is likely do to the choice of language- speeches vs toasts. Toasts are traditional at weddings and should last no more than a couple of minutes. Speeches are much longer, rarely done well at any wedding I have attended, and most often a drunken, cringe worthy tribute sharing Too Much Information.

    Post # 35
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    2451 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: NJ

    Nobody. The best man had a fear of everything, so we didn’t consider that. Then everyone got to eating, and talking, and no one got around to giving any speeches.

    Nobody missed it either.

    Post # 36
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    8168 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    megm1099 :  

    My father, FIL  and  the  best man did at my first  one ( very formal and old fashioned ) .   No one did at my last  one  thank  goodness ,.A  couple of friend’s toasts was all.  

    Post # 37
    Member
    474 posts
    Helper bee

    We love speeches (and I mean the 5-10 minute kind, not the 30 seconds). How often do you get the chance to share your thoughts with those you love and hear the thoughts of those who love you. 

    We also both HATE how so often there is a focus on men talking. Its weird and gendered. 

    So at the reception we had both our mothers, both our fathers, my sister, and his brother, and we gave a speech together. 

    The night before we had an evening of speeches– dozens of our friends and family drinking and telling speeches. 

    All you have to do is have a great MC and make sure your friends are trained in how to give good speeches— its just a question of having a single point and avoiding inside jokes! 

    Post # 38
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    1024 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    The wedding toasts were one of my favorite parts of the day! Father of the bride, groom, father of the groom, best man, maid of honor, bridesmaid (who actually helped set us up!). Each was only a couple minutes (and some provided humor and happy tears) 🙂

    Post # 39
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    324 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Bride and Groom did a short welcome speech. Maid of Honor, Best man, Father of the Bride, and Brother of the Bride all did a short toast. It took 10 mins for the Welcome Speech and all 4 toasts.

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