POLL!!! Why Do we Still Get Diamond Engagement Rings?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Why Do We Still Get Diamond Engagement Rings?
    Because it is tradition : (84 votes)
    26 %
    Because of a successful marketing campaign from De Beers : (106 votes)
    33 %
    Because there isn't enough info on alternative stones : (26 votes)
    8 %
    Because they are beautiful and no other stone compares : (108 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Honestly, I just think they’re pretty and sparkly. I now the whole diamond engagement thing is relatively new but I still wanted it LOL

    Post # 4
    Member
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    DeBeers created a fantastic marketing campaign in the 1930’s to increase the sale of diamonds.  The cartel still controlls a large percentage of the worlds diamonds (I’ve heard numbers ranging between 60% and 80%), which allows them to only release a small number at a time, artificially keeping the prices high.  Diamonds are not actually rare as we would like to think of them, and essentially lose their worth once you purchase them.  

    This is one of the many reasons that my FH and I chose to go with a lab-created non-diamond for my engagement ring.

    On a side note, engagement rings weren’t really even a thing until the DeBeers marketing campaign.  People tended to just decide to get married and did not have a ring except for their wedding ring.

    If you want to get more info, there’s a great “Adam Ruins Everything” episode that completely covers this topic.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3751 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

    MissMul :  My husband is older than me and traditional, so it wasn’t even a question of whether or not he was getting me a diamond, just what shape. I say that because it seems that I see more gemstones or different colored diamonds for engagement rings in my generation than I have from his. I’m a fan of diamonds and they happen to be my birthstone, but I know that my fondness of them does have to do with the way they’ve been marketed as a luxury, despite their paradoxical value.

    Post # 6
    Member
    10070 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I think a lot of it’s tradition and because it’s what’s “expected”. 

    Post # 9
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    9536 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I love sparkly things, and don’t like the idea of something colored for every day (like, something colored would be fine now and then but in general I just want to wear neutrals.)

    I did want a moissy, fwiw.. Darling Husband wanted to get me a diamond for tradition reasons, and I was fine with that. (Though I do think it was dumb to spend so much extra money on something that is, to me, the same thing… but hey he was the one buying so it was his call on that IMO.)

    Post # 12
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    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    MissMul :  I’ve found that the majority of people that I know or come across actually aren’t that well-informed about the inflated diamond prices that are total bull, De Beers marketing, etc. But when I tell them and point to my moissy (which to them is a colorless, sparkly gem), it makes complete sense to them. I think so many people buy diamonds because many of them are just uninformed. I know there is probably the same number of people who ARE informed but just want a diamond because as a PP said, that’s what’s “expected.” Once Charles & Colvard perfected their stones, that was it for me, it was a no-brainer. But even if I hadn’t gotten a moissy for my new ring, I still would’ve gotten a different colorless stone such as a white sapphire. Never a diamond again. 

    Post # 13
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    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    MissMul :  I have a lab created emerald in a white gold solitaire setting (see profile picture).  Friends and family told me it was beautiful.  I think that the understand though that FH and I are both at points in our lives where we don’t have thousands and thousands of dollars to drop on a piece of jewelry.  Regardless, I love my ring, and wouldn’t trade it for the world.  

    But to avoid the raised eyebrows, I don’t think that it is necessary to explain that it isn’t a diamond unless they specifically ask.  Let them make their own assumptions.  It’s none of their business what type of stone it is or how much FH spent on it.

    Post # 14
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    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I chose a cz ring (well, I told Fiance I wanted a cz and he picked the ring). I could not justify the price of a diamond or even a moissanite ring. Fiance picked a Berricle ring which I later chose to bake and I think it’s absolutely gorgeous and perfect. I know that it won’t last forever, but that’s okay, even some women with diamonds choose to eventually “upgrade” their rings.

    I will never judge someone else’s ring choice and I would hope for the same courtesy from others, but even if they do judge, I love my ring and couldn’t care less what they think.

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