Post # 1
Just out of curiosity:
Would you be okay if say…your man, you and a group of friends when out for a social gathering. Say that there was a swimming pool or something near by, and one (or a few) of the single girls that is with you all decided to take her top off and free the tata’s while taking a swim. She’s aware that there are men around that are in committed relationships, but proceeds to do so anyways.
Would you think this is offensive? or would this not bother you at all? Why or why not?
Post # 2
usnavyfiance: I don’t see what her relationship status, or that of others, has to do with it. I tend to think though that in such a situation it’s appropriate to be mindful of others. I sunbathe topless when with my OH, but if we were in a group I probably wouldn’t in case it made others uncomfortable.
Wouldn’t bother me personally if someone else did, though, and I certainly wouldn’t think they were trying to hit on my OH or anything (which is what your post appears to imply, as you’ve mentioned people’s relationship statuses).
Post # 3
This sounds a little ridiculous. Of course it’s not ok. Unless you’re all at a nude beach or a strip club. ..any girl doing that is someone to get rid of.
Post # 4
I don’t make a habit of policing what other women do…
(Hopefully) we are all in relationships with adults who can respond appropriately in these situations. If your SO is capable of turning the other way, leaving the room, or just not engaging, how the other woman chooses to conduct herself doesn’t impact you in the slightest.
ETA: Of course the topless person isn’t being mindful or respectful of others… But I just don’t think that it’s my place to get into it. If I’m so offended, I can remove myself from the situation. I’m not her mama.
Post # 5
Meh. It’s her choice. If your man wants to get a good look at some elses tata’s then there are plenty of places he could go and do that. I would try and just assume she is freeing the ladies for her (better tan – whatever?) rather than to try and lure people away from their committed relationships. I would however be upset if my SO made a big deal about (like being a perv – lol) but that would be an issue with him and not her. But – I can see why some people would let this bother them.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t be okay with it personally, not in front of my guy, unless we were all doing it I guess. It really depends on your views on nudity, but I would feel uncomfortable atleast.
Post # 7
I just want to make clear that this is not me lol
I watch Vanderpump Rules (TV show in US) and a lot of girls were offended by one of the cast doing this around their boyfriends. Just thought I’d get input on what other people thought
For the girl who’s top came off, she’s single and a free spirit and thinks anyone who is offended by her acitons is insecure or something of that nature…
The other girls who were with their boyfriends thought it was innappropriate of her…
Post # 8
My Darling Husband has seen boobs before. He wouldn’t be fazed by it or suddenly divorce me because he saw bare breasts in close proximity. So it wouldn’t worry me. I might find it quite funny. I’m a bit of a nudist myself.
Post # 9
99bee: oops, you wouldn’t like me very much then.
Post # 10
usnavyfiance: I haven’t seen the show, but from what you’ve said her behaviour comes across as a little attention seeking, in which case I’d probably do an inward eye roll and laugh about it.
I really think it comes down to context/motive etc. Doing it to get a reaction is pretty pathetic (though still wouldn’t bother me), but if someone just prefers to go topless and isn’t making a song and dance out of it it isn’t a big deal IMO.
I find it a bit crazy that some people get so uptight over topless sunbathing though. In Europe it’s really common and just isn’t a big deal. I’ve had some looks/stares when doing it on holiday at predominantly American resorts, but honestly I think that’s their issue, not mine. I keep to myself though, I wouldn’t walk around topless (unless everyone else was).
Post # 11
Depends on the girl doing it. If she’s doing it to be obnoxious and is flirting with and hanging all over the guys while too less then yeah I’d have a problem and would try and distance myself from that person in the future.
Top less and just swimming and acting normal, no. A lot of women in Europe swim and hang out at the beach topless. Go to the resorts in the Caribbean, you’ll see plenty of it. Guys see boobs all over tv anyway. You don’t wanna be with a guy who would do something you don’t like seeing another topless girl anyway
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2017 - Bahamas
The biggest issue here would be the consent/uncomfortable-ness of others. I don’t think it’s fair to say “don’t look” or “leave if you don’t like it” when people showed up to an event that they thought would be pg.
ETA: That said, it wouldn’t bother me personally and i certainly wouldn’t feel concerned for my relationship. If we were at a party and someone asked “hey everyone! Does anyone care if I go topless?!”, I would be fine. As long as everyone else was cool with it.
Post # 13
usnavyfiance: Wouldn’t bother me. It’s not something I would personally do but it doesn’t intimidate me to see someone else do it around me or my SO. It wouldn’t make me uncomfortable even if my children were around. If a man can go bare chested then it’s no different for a woman to me…it’s all just anatomy.
Post # 14
I’m actually a bit of a prude. It would bother me because I don’t want to see it myself. Keep it under wraps unless the group is comfortable with nudity is my opinion. I actually happen to know my husband would be vastly uncomfortable with that as well, so it’s not a big deal as far as someone doing that in front of him. He’d probably want to leave.
Post # 15
I think that seems weird that she takes it off… why even own a bathing suit top if you aren’t planning to wear it? Waste of money, that is.
If it is a private pool owned by an association they may have rules about that and I’m pretty sure most public pools would forbid it. If someone did it at my personal pool without asking if it was okay, I’d be put off in a big way and wouldn’t invite them back again. It is not their right to determine what I’m comfortable with in my own home. At your own pool, you can do what you want and they have nudist beaches.
Call me a prude if you want, but there is a time and place for these things.