(Closed) Poll: Would you be okay with another girl doing this around your partner?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you be okay with another woman letting it "all hang out" around your partner?
    Fine with me, doesn't bother me one bit. : (121 votes)
    31 %
    No, that's not okay. : (232 votes)
    59 %
    Depends on what her boobs look like : (23 votes)
    6 %
    Other - leave comment! : (19 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    usnavyfiance: First off, LOVE vanderpump rules, such a guilty pleasure. I actually had a debate with my girlfriends about how we all felt with Lala’s actions. On one hand I can understand where Katie was coming from- she’s newly engaged and her Fiance has made multiple mistakes in the past. I’m sure having a hot girl take off her top doesn’t make her super comfortable. But on the flip side it’s not like she was making blantant advances towards Tom (just Jax I guess haha).

    Overall if it were me in that situation it would really come down to the girl’s attitude. I’ve been with groups of friends at private beaches where we’re in mixed company, have a few bottles of wine, and suddenly we’re all skinny dipping. It’s easy to get caught up in a group and let loose like that. BUT that being said if it were a group of people who are still fairly new to one another and the girl had an arrogant attitude about it then there might be a problem. Lala has exhibited that she’s going to do what she wants, regarldess of how it makes others feel, so that’s the part I take the most issue with. If you’re grown enough to make adult decisions then you should also be mature enough to recognize when you’re causing discomfort and tension in a situation.

    Post # 17
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    5916 posts
    Bee Keeper

    usnavyfiance:  Not only would I be okay with one or two of the women swimming or sunbathing topless, I’d probably be the first to defend them against people who made unkind or judgmental  comments. I heard a saying, can’t remember where, that women should seek to build each other up not tear each other down.

    Post # 18
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    303 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t believe anyone should remove clothing in front of people who have not in some form shown consent. Some of us really don’t care to see people in the buff. There are places where this is appropriate and in each place you know what you’re getting into before hand.

    Its tacky. Thoughtless, and completely attention seeking and the women I choose to let in my life hold themselves to a much higher standard.

    Post # 20
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    2160 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I wouldn’t care if it wasn’t a friend of mine, because Darling Husband and I would both find it funny. If it was a friend of mine though I would mind, becauseI dont’ like the idea of Darling Husband seeing my friend’s boobs. So for me the answer is that if it’s a girl I wil never see again, I don’t care, but if it’s a friend, I would definitely be very bothered.

    Post # 21
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    16 posts
    Newbee

    I’m from Europe and being topless at the beach is something quite normal here (I don’t do it, but many do). I wouldn’t mind at all my friends doing that, why would I? My man has seen boobs before and it’s not like they’re hitting on him. If it was just a normal swimming pool I would probably find it weird though, but not because of my SO.

    Post # 22
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    1341 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Maybe she’s a feminist and was making a political statement? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Topfreedom

    I voted “depends how her boobs look”, which is exactly how I feel about topless men, too. You got a nice chest? Sure, show it off if that’s your thing! Saggy beer gut? Ain’t nobody wanna see that.

    I’d think less of any women who objected to this because of relationship insecurities. 

    Post # 23
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    3050 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    anonladygrace:  Just out of general curiosity, do you also not approve of public breastfeeding? 

    Post # 24
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    1042 posts
    Bumble bee

    I feel like Americans and Europeans would differ on thei topic.  Americans cover up where as you can spot s a European easily at a beach.  Boobs free, men in tiny tiny speedos. Sometimes you see something way more offense then a pair of boobs. Sometimes you see another pair of something you really don’t want to see. 

    if a girl were drunk and took off her top purely for attention i would think “what a mess” and move on woth my day. 

    if she just didn’t want tan lines id think “good for you” and move on with my day. 

    Must women have beautiful bodies and far too othen we are very self conscious. Id rather see a woman love her body and be free as opposed to sit on the sidelines. 

    Now if she ripped her top off and motor boated my Fiance then…. That’s another story. 

    Post # 25
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    2734 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If a woman wants to take her top off, that’s her perogative. As long as children aren’t around. I may roll my eyes and think “someone’s looking for attention…” but I certainly wouldn’t be more pissed because my husband happens to be there. My husband is human and so is this woman. He’s seen breasts before and has every opportunity to see them at any other time as well. It’s his obligation to stay committed to me, not the obligation of every other woman in the world not to attract him.

    I’ve actually been in this situation. A ‘friend’ of ours at a party once decided to show off her new nipple piercing. My husband turned away and said “I’d appreciate it if you wouldn’t show me. I’m sorry but I’m not interested in seeing” (I totally looked though haha). Even if he wanted to look… who cares? If he can’t control himself at the sight of a topless woman, I don’t need him as my husband anyway.

    ETA: I think it also has to do with intent. If she’s going topless because she wants to sunbathe or she’s super comfortable with her body and wants to show it off – fine. If she’s blatantly and maliciously doing it to get a rise out of the other women and is actively trying to seduce men in relationships – hell no. I still stand firm that it’s my husband’s responsibility to refuse her advances but it would definitely piss me off and I wouldn’t want to associate with someone who doesn’t respect our relationship.

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  SoonAsYouCan.
    Post # 26
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    303 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    soymilk:  I do approve of that as its natural and it isn’t whipping your shirt off for fun but it serves an actual purpose. 

    I breastfeed in public. I’m a woman who uses a cover because I still wish to respect those that don’t want to see it (like parents to young children that don’t know how to answer questions) but I don’t give a second thought to women who don’t cover. Purposeful.

    Post # 27
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    3050 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    anonladygrace:  I see. Your first sentence just had me curious if it was pertaining to more in meaning. Thanks for the answer. 

    Post # 28
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    2251 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I would burst out laughing.  My Darling Husband on the other hand, would find it inappropriate. 

    Post # 29
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    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Meh.. I watched the same episode.. And I don’t think I really care. They’re just boobs.

    If someone elses boobs offend you or entices your SO.. That’s not really the topless persons issue.

    Post # 30
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    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I would not be pleased, that’s for sure! But I can’t control other people. 

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