(Closed) Poll: Would you be okay with another girl doing this around your partner?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you be okay with another woman letting it "all hang out" around your partner?
    Fine with me, doesn't bother me one bit. : (121 votes)
    31 %
    No, that's not okay. : (232 votes)
    59 %
    Depends on what her boobs look like : (23 votes)
    6 %
    Other - leave comment! : (19 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 31
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I can’t control other people.  I also trust my H fully so having some girl without a top on around doesn’t really matter because I know my H and know that he wouldn’t engage or do anything to ruin our relationship.

    I find that when women get pissed about things like this it speaks more to their insecurities and trust issues within their own relationship then it does about the topless girl.

    Post # 32
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would think it was odd, but it wouldn’t make me angry/upset. I’d probably tease Darling Husband a little bit if I caught him checking her out.  It’s not something I would do, even if single, but I’m not crazy about how I look in a swimsuit, let along out of one! 

    Post # 33
    1151 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I would not care and wouldn’t mind if Darling Husband checked them out, which he probably would do. boobs are boobs

    Post # 34
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well, were the men at the pool wearing tank tops, or in some other way covering their nipples?  No?  Then bring on the lady nipples!

    Seriously, I’m not even joking.  I don’t have a problem with this.  I find lady nipples and man nipples equally appealing.  I like them both.  To me, they’re both equally sexual, so the idea that “women’s breasts are sexual objects, and thus should be covered,” while “men’s chests aren’t sexual, so there’s no reason to cover them” is a totally fallacious statement. 

    My partner only likes lady chests, but that’s fine.  It’s actually kind of unfair – I get to stare at man chests, but the lady chests are all covered, so he doesn’t get the same nice view.  In all honesty, he’s actually getting the raw end of the stick there.  Everyone should go topless, then he and I can BOTH enjoy a nice view – though, truthfully, I’ll get a nice view twice over, so I’m not sure it would truly even out…

    Post # 35
    949 posts
    Busy bee

    99bee:  I’m Finnish. I’ve grown up seeing people of all genders naked in the sauna, so it’s genuinely no big deal to me. I certainly wouldn’t judge someone for their choice of swimming topless or in their birthday suit…

    Post # 36
    9815 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I haven’t seen the show.  As long as she also wasn’t trying to hit on any of them and taking her top off specifically to hit on them, I wouldn’t care.  They’re just breasts, not genitals.  If men can go topless why shouldn’t women be able to?  I wouldn’t do it, but I don’t care if someone else wants to.

    Post # 37
    4054 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Meh. They’re just boobs.

    I also live somewhere that it’s legal for women to go topless, so I guess it’s NBD to me.

    Post # 38
    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I think its fine, as long as its legal, live and let live.

    Post # 39
    3425 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Inappropriate generally to take you top off. But not because of who will see it. 

    Post # 40
    2019 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t care for it. Im married and wouldn’t be a fan of one of my single girlfriends did that in front of my husband. I certainly wouldn’t do it in front of my friends husbands, either. I would feel disrespected, unless we were at a nude or topless beach where I KNEW that was the norm and situation. am I concerned my husband would go cheat on me? No, not at all. I would feel disrespected that a friend thought that was appropriate, though.

    Post # 41
    3611 posts
    Sugar bee

    usnavyfiance:  I wouldn’t be bothered in the sense that I wouldn’t think my Fiance wanted to hook up with her. I would probably cringe on the girl’s behalf though, because that seems like such a desperate thing to do, and I know my Fiance and the other committed men I know would agree.

    Post # 42
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    usnavyfiance:  What country do you live in? This makes a difference.

    Post # 43
    2579 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    It’s just nudity so it wouldn’t bother me. If they were coming on to my husband that would be a different story.

    Post # 44
    2013 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    freckles071611:  “I find that when women get pissed about things like this it speaks more to their insecurities and trust issues within their own relationship then it does about the topless girl.”

    Agreed. They’re just boobs.

    Post # 45
    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I would not be offended or bothered by this at all.  Here in the US breast are looked at in the same way that genitals are but in reality their sole purpose is feeding offspring.  My Fiance has seen breast many times before, he looks at porn and it doesn’t bother me.  He would never disrespect me by stairing or giving another women the attention that he gives me.  I hate tan lines and sunbath topless as much as I can including in public places when it is allowed.  I will continue to do that even after I am married.

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