(Closed) Poll: Would you be okay with another girl doing this around your partner?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you be okay with another woman letting it "all hang out" around your partner?
    Fine with me, doesn't bother me one bit. : (121 votes)
    31 %
    No, that's not okay. : (232 votes)
    59 %
    Depends on what her boobs look like : (23 votes)
    6 %
    Other - leave comment! : (19 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 46
    7811 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t really want to see anyone’s breasts- man or woman. Except for breastfeeding mamas-they should whip them out anywhere they feel the need to.

    Post # 47
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    My husband and I are in a monogamous relationship. I would not appreciate some girl whipping them out. I’d probably be the person to ask her to put them away. 

    Post # 48
    1146 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    usnavyfiance:  if my relationship could be shaken by my husband seeing another woman’s breasts I have much bigger problems to deal with.

    I wouldn’t care what another woman does. I care what my partner does, and I know he wouldnt care what she did either because he is committed to me. Moving on….

    Post # 49
    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    In Europe this is not even blinked at. At end of the day its freaking mammary glands. 

    Granted I get here in the states is a huger deal than it needs to be. So I suppose group dynamics come into play. Personally, I wouldn’t particuarly care. It’s a freaking beach so of all places to be topless thats defintely one in my book. 

    I’m more bothered by closed space nudity to be honest. lol


    Post # 50
    4244 posts
    Honey bee

    I dont think a woman should police her behaviours based on the single-ness of the men around her.

    I don’t necessarily agree that you should be taking your clothes off and “who cares if it makes others uncomfortable”, but that’s a politeness thing that has nothing to do with the audience and their relationship status.

    Post # 51
    839 posts
    Busy bee

    I would judge the everloving shit out of her for being innapropriate in a public place, so I guess I wouldn’t say I’m fine with it, but I also wouldn’t say anything or feel awkward about being there with my man or whatever.

    Post # 52
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Yes it would be unusual in my circle for a woman to do that. That being said I think the fact that male nipples are fine to show but female nipples are to be covered is a strange concept. As female nipples may serve the purpose of feeding offspring while male nipples are purely for show. While both male and female chest are seen as arousing sexually as well. I wouldn’t judge a woman for wanting to be topless or for being comfortable topless. I would not be, but that’s how I feel about toplessness for me, and not anyone else. Now if it were more common to see women with out a shirt then perhaps I would feel more comfortable. I think all nipples should be free to chose to be out or covered up personally. 

    Post # 53
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    It wouldn’t make me nervous for my relationship, but I find that kind of behavior in mixed company at a gathering not geared toward disrobing to be attention seeking and off-putting. 

    I wouldn’t say anything, but my fi and I both would quirk an eyebrow at her and probably leave, feeling that the situation would be digressing soon. 

    Post # 54
    1312 posts
    Bumble bee

    Personally I think it’s bizarre that someone would just whip out their boobs! Seems like a huge attention-seeking thing and people like that bother me. I’m not insecure with my relationship, but I’d probably walk out of the event. Now if it’s in a topless zone, then whatever. 

    Post # 55
    401 posts
    Helper bee

    Love vanderpump rules!!!! I can see why Katie was upset but I don’t think she should have confronted lala. Like other bees have mentioned, if that makes you uncomfortable i think thats your issue, not hers. Not gonna lie though I’d be pretty jealous if a girl looking like Lala was topless in front of my SO haha (Itty bitty titty committee member right hurrr so I’m a little insecure about my chest!) I mean she’s gorgeous, rocking bod and fake boobs soooo I can definitely see why Katie was upset. But she had no place bringing it up- especially at dinner in front of everyone. It seems like they all love ganging up on her. I mean she is def an attention seeking person but idk theres something I like about her. 

    Post # 56
    3064 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    usnavyfiance:  I was that girl many years ago at my (well at the time is was just DH’s) house. Haha. Sorry all. I was kind of buzzing and am def more of a naked person at heart. I was also like 22 and just out of my party party phase.

    My friends were unphased but my now Darling Husband did not appreciate it. LOL. I have since kept on all my shirts.

    And I really 100 percent would not care if someone did that in front of my Darling Husband. We have a pool so there is potential. HAH.

    Post # 57
    7435 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think it should be on that girl to think about if a man is in relationships. If you’re in an area where this is allowed, why should she have to stop and think about other people’s relationships?

    I might be a little insecure and I would probably make a joke to my Darling Husband about not looking at her tits but I wouldn’t be mad at her. If you’re in an area that allows that I don’t think you should hold it against silence who decides to take their top off. If it offends you (not you specifically OP, just a general “you”) then leave.


    Post # 58
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    It wouldn’t bother me…but then again, I am totally secure in my relationship. 

    Post # 59
    9718 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Meh, I wouldn’t really care. I have no worries about Fiance cheating on me so I don’t care at all if he sees another pair of boobs.

    Actually, when we were younger his friends went through a phase where they always wanted to go skinny dipping when we went camping. So he’s seen almost all of his female friends naked. It was never a big deal to us.

    Post # 60
    527 posts
    Busy bee

    I say it’s not okay, but I say that regardless of whether there are men in committed relationships around – that’s irrelevant. It’s just not okay period unless she’s in her own private pool. 

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