Post # 1
Hey Bees 🙂 Im new here, and decided to join toay after an experience i had with some rings. Not an engegement ring (Im not engaged yet!) but some stackable bands I have.
So heres the story — today I was out with a friend (who thinks shes better than a lot of people in our community) and a woman approached us, and complimented me on me set of stack rings I was wearing, specifically one. She told me how beautiful it was, and that she had never seen such a unique diamond ring, and where had I gotten it. I explained to her it was not real, it was actually a CZ from an online retailer and it same as a set of three and was only $57!She was suprised, took down the retailer and walked away. Upon her walking away my friend grabbed my arm and told me “You never tell anyone your jewelry is fake!” And I explained I had no problem telling anyone if a piece of jewelry I am wearing is real or fake, she then preceesed to say she would have said “it was a family piece, or a gift from a boyfiend, or even that I had forgotten where I had gotten it!”. I dont have a husband who makes bukoo bucks, and Im not ahamed of my “costume” pieces. I live within my means, and I still have pretty jewelry Im happy with,
Am I wrong here Bees? Would you have told the woman flat out it was fake, maybe tried to avoid answering, or lied about where the ring actually came from?
Also, should I feel ashamed about wearing costume jewelry? Is it something kids, not adult women do?
Heres the ring in question:
Post # 3
I would never lie. Lying is way worse than wearing fake jewelry.
Post # 4
I’d say what the stones really aware but I probably wouldn’t use the word fake.
Post # 5
hm, the photo isnt showing up. one second
Post # 6
@justhangingout: I don’t see anything wrong with what you did. I sometimes am too honest for my own good lol.
I dunno, depends on the situation. I say what you did is better than lying. Since she brought out the word ‘diamond’ it makes sense that you corrected her, right?
If she simply said ‘I love your rings’ then I probably wouldn’t go into a whole spiel about how they’re CZ. Then again, I might show off a good bargain so might have gone into the spiel anyway!!
I wear a mix of real and fake stuff and love it all.
I’d never compromise on an engagement ring… diamonds all the way for me. But for other stuff, why not.
Post # 7
I would have told her pretty much what you said
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I would have done the same! I’m the worst with acting like my things are expensive – I brag about deals I’ve gotten all the time. I think it is nice to tell people where you got things if they like them, and how much they were sometimes even.
Post # 9
@canarydiamond: I agree. i had a real rose gold band on with it, and it looked nice, i didnt feel the need to share that with her. I just guess I felt chastised like a child when my friend treated me the way she did. I was happy witht he brgian, the ring was 57! who wouldnt be happy witht hat haha especially for a st of three in sterling silver 😛 lol. like you said, if she hadnt said diamonds, i would have just said thank you and moved on.
Post # 10
How is it fake? It’s a real ring, it just isn’t a diamond! It’s only fake if you try to pass it off as something it isn’t. Would you tell someone that a white sapphire was fake, or a moissanite?
Sure, a lot of people might use CZ as a stand-in for diamonds, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be used a jewellery in their own right.
Post # 11
This type of situation is one of the biggest reasons why I don’t wear CZ in the first place. It seems like at some point someone is going to be bothered by it! 😛
If you are comfortable sharing by all means do so. There is no reason why sharing with someone who was interested (and may want to purchase a similar item) is inappropriate. The only reason I would see someone reacting like your friend did is if they are purposely trying to fool someone into thinking that their CZ is a real diamond…which you obviously weren’t trying to do.
Post # 12
I think you can do whatever the heck you want, honestly. I don’t think it matters if someone thinks a cz is a diamond or not. If that’s their biggest issue (someone lying or omitting details about their jewelery) then they should count their blessings. Do what you feel comfortable with.
Post # 13
For the record, that’s not a fake ring. I can plainly see it with my two eyes.
My e-ring has a CZ in it. I generally just say “thank you” when someone compliments my ring. Mostly because I don’t want them to feel sorry for me, and it would be too long to explain the truth–the whole thing about this stone coming in the ring when we got it from Robbins Brothers, and we left it in there because we thought Amora Gem would win its patent war, and then it didnt so now we are kind of in limbo and dont want to buy a temporary stone etc etc etc. I’ve never met anyone here (Oklahoma, not the Bee!) that didn’t choose a diamond, no matter how small, so I am not sure they’d even believe me if I told them I chose to do it this way.
If she asked where I got costume jewelry, I’d straight up say Claires or Berricle, because to me jewelry is jewery, whether it came from Graff or a coin machine.
Post # 14
It’s not “fake”. It’s obviously a very real ring 😉
But seriously. It’s a pretty ring. Who cares what it’s made out of?
Post # 15
with my friends and family, I’m very upfront about my moissanite and CZ jewelry. I don’t want them to think I’m dripping in diamonds and spoiled.
if a stranger compliments me, I usually just say thanks and leave it at that. but that’s because I don’t feel like starting a conversation about it.
Post # 16
I wouldnt volunteer the information, but if someone did ask me, I would tell them.