Post # 61
With all the other options in colors to wear to a wedding, no I wouldn’t ever. And her dress, while pretty, kinda has a similar back to it with the deep V and beading…I wouldn’t be okay with thatl…By The Way, your wedding dress is GORGEOUS!
Post # 62
Bettyboo1982: nooo no no. only unless i was the mother of the bride. her dress sounds like a Mother-In-Law or MOB dress. Plus her said dress looks wayyy to close to your. i would tell her it clashes. she will need to find another.
Post # 63
I wouldnt but I wouldnt (and didnt!) care what others wore to my wedding. I just wont do it because I see some brides get upset over this. My husband’s cousin wore an ivory dress to our wedding and she was in all family pictures and it really didnt look bad. It’s obvious who the bride is.
Post # 64
Emily Post says white is fine as long as it does not look bridal. Miss Manners still says no to white, black or red.
Especially since there is debate in etiquette circles over whether this rule is passé, I really can’t see a bride being “offended” so to speak. In fact, there is a very good chance that you”ll have guests who have heard or read that it is now OK. In any case, unless you are being harmed, the other traditional rule is never to call people out or correct them over a breach of manners or faux pas unless they ask for feedback.
As a guest I would not take the chance on wearing white, though. As this and other threads show, many people still feel strongly on the subject and there are usually other options. Since your sister specifically asked, I think you were fine to say what you did. I wouldn’t have, otherwise.
Post # 65
Nope. Some people will argue that they have a right to wear whatever colour they like, the bride doesn’t own any colour. And that’s true. If you really want to wear a white, ivory or cream dress to someone’s wedding then no-one’s gonna arrest you. But personally I wouldn’t.
That said, I wouldn’t have been fussed if someone had worn white to my wedding.
Post # 66
I wouldn’t wear white, but I wouldn’t have a problem with it if guests wore white to my wedding. Unless you’re wearing a floor-length bridal-style gown, nobody is going to mistake a guest for the bride.
Though I do think this recent pickup of people thinking it’s a good idea to wear white to a wedding is because of Pippa Middleton and her white dress at the royal wedding. Obviously that was planned and not just Pippa’s doing, but I guess it’s shifted perspective of what’s appropriate.
Post # 67
Never. I wore a black and white dress to my sisters wedding (before I knew better) and I don’t think I will ever stop apologizing. I will never wear white (or anything similar), red or black to a wedding unless I’m a bridesmaid and don’t have a choice. I’m Maid/Matron of Honor for my sisters renewal ceremony and I am so glad that I get a chance to make it up to her.
ETA: I would be upset if someone wore white to my wedding.
Post # 69
Not unless the bride personally asked me to do so or requested it on the invitation….winter wonderland theme or reverse wedding with bride in black and guests in white, etc.
Post # 70
Bettyboo1982: wow. Your sister is something else. that dress is not okay at all imo. But I don’t think anybody but the bride should wear a dress that’s primarily white/ivory/cream to a wedding, even more so for the brides sister (unless the bride asks her to).
I did have a bridesmaid show me an off white color dress she wanted to wear but without mentioning the color. I told her to please find something else because it was white/ivory. Speak up
Post # 71
In my opinion, unless the wedding is SUPER casual where even the bride isn’t wearing a tradtional wedding dress, the only way ANYONE would upstage a bride by wearing white would be if they actually wore a wedding dress too. You are the bride. People are going to know that since they were invited to YOUR wedding. It’s just a dress.
Now, I don’t think I would ever wear a white, cream, or ivory dress because of the rule. But my point is, I think it’s a competely stupid rule.