POLL: You're childcare option

posted 2 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How do/will you handle childcare for infant/toddler?
    Stay at home parent : (67 votes)
    26 %
    Work from home : (27 votes)
    10 %
    Family member provides care : (36 votes)
    14 %
    In home licensed childcare : (23 votes)
    9 %
    Daycare : (82 votes)
    32 %
    Nanny share : (14 votes)
    5 %
    Other-please explain : (11 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    720 posts
    Busy bee

    We thought about daycare options but now it’s looking more like I’ll be a stay at home mom for a while. This does mean that Fiance will have to keep working for others in their practices for a while but I think it’ll be worth it. 

    Post # 62
    Member
    3197 posts
    Sugar bee

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    anabolina :  Maybe I missed your location, but I know that a few daycare places in our town have teacher turnover rates of more than 1 year, whereas the typical is 6 months or so. Maybe, if you’re still considering in the meantime to keep your options open, you can look into finding that type of center who prioritizes their teachers with good benefits. Congrats on your baby! The care situation is always a freaking nightmare.

    Post # 63
    Member
    9397 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    anabolina :  “Anyone use fmla in increments rather than as 1 big chunk?” 

    Kind of, except it’s the 6 weeks of California Paid Family Leave that I’m taking in increments. I have 7 months of maternity leave, but will save 2 or 3 weeks of PFL to use around the holidays. I just have to use it all before LO’s first birthday rolls around next March.

    I like that it’ll give me the chance to go back to work for a bit to get readjusted, but then I can take a good amount of time off again with LO when he’s a bit older and travel is easier.

    Post # 64
    Member
    9717 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    anabolina :  You should check all of this with your employer.

    At most places your PTO will run concurrently with your FMLA. You don’t get to use one, and then the other for extra time. It’s 12 weeks total unless you live somewhere like CA with the extra benefits.

    Coming back part time or using your FMLA intermittently like that, I believe is up to your employer’s discretion. You don’t get to pick your own schedule for a year.

    https://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/fmla-faqs.htm

    Leave to care for or bond with a newborn child or for a newly placed adopted or foster child may only be taken intermittently with the employer’s approval and must conclude within 12 months after the birth or placement.

    Post # 65
    Member
    929 posts
    Busy bee

    We use a liscenced in-home daycare. We absolutely love it. I have worked in several centers and we weren’t opposed to that, but in our town only one takes infants, and there were no openings when we needed care. There are pros and cons to both. That I won’t list, unless asked because I typed them before and wasn’t logged in and don’t feel like typing again. Haha.

    I would have loved to be a stay at home parent growing up, however, since I am a teacher I get to spend 2 1/2 months in the summer at home with my kids. So I feel like it is a win-win. I get to stay home with them and do something I love! 

    Post # 67
    Member
    17 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We use a combination. I dropped to working part time and we do 2 days daycare and 1 day with a family member

    Post # 68
    Member
    3156 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I never even thought to ask about staff turnover, but then DS’ nursery was brand new and hadn’t opened yet when I signed him up so it wouldn’t have been a helpful thing to ask.

    He has been there about 4 months now and loves it. The only difficulty is if he misses any days (llness or holiday) it takes him a while to settle back into going.

    I would encourage you to think about what will happen when the baby is sick. We faced the first sickness last week and it was stressful. Darling Husband and I both took a day each to watch him at home and grandpa helped a bit as he is retired.

    I am now pregnant with #2 and I will be a Stay-At-Home Mom after my maternity leave for this one. The cost of two in nursery and travelling up to London every day would just wipe out my salary. There is no point at all. That said I want to keep DS in nursery for a few half days / days a week while #2 is a newborn. Partly to help me but also because I think it is great for his social skills and learning.

    Post # 69
    Member
    2231 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    We don’t want to put our kids in daycare as they’re such sponges when they’re young and we want to be the ones raising them. I don’t know if I could just stay at home and raise kids though. I had four weeks off after our honeymoon and I nearly went mad! Plan is a stay at home business, also my husband works from home & his retired parents live next door. We are all sorted!

    we get 12 months maternity leave here ( it’s the law) . 26 weeks of this is paid by the government. 

    Post # 70
    Member
    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Our current ‘plan’ I’d to have a nanny (possibly, really all comes down to cost). I work from home and do have some flexibility but I can’t guarantee that I could watch baby all the time so I would love a helping hand during work hours but still being able to keep an eye on baby and the nanny and how my LO is treated. 

    I also know my in-laws would love to watch the baby but they live to far away for it to be a daily occurrence. We are thinking of moving closer eventually (depends on Hubby’s work) and then it would be more doable for them to watch LO everyday. So that would be the best option. 

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