Post # 61
We thought about daycare options but now it’s looking more like I’ll be a stay at home mom for a while. This does mean that Fiance will have to keep working for others in their practices for a while but I think it’ll be worth it.
Post # 62
Maybe I missed your location, but I know that a few daycare places in our town have teacher turnover rates of more than 1 year, whereas the typical is 6 months or so. Maybe, if you’re still considering in the meantime to keep your options open, you can look into finding that type of center who prioritizes their teachers with good benefits. Congrats on your baby! The care situation is always a freaking nightmare.
Post # 63
“Anyone use fmla in increments rather than as 1 big chunk?
Kind of, except it’s the 6 weeks of California Paid Family Leave that I’m taking in increments. I have 7 months of maternity leave, but will save 2 or 3 weeks of PFL to use around the holidays. I just have to use it all before LO’s first birthday rolls around next March.
I like that it’ll give me the chance to go back to work for a bit to get readjusted, but then I can take a good amount of time off again with LO when he’s a bit older and travel is easier.
Post # 64
You should check all of this with your employer.
At most places your PTO will run concurrently with your FMLA. You don’t get to use one, and then the other for extra time. It’s 12 weeks total unless you live somewhere like CA with the extra benefits.
Coming back part time or using your FMLA intermittently like that, I believe is up to your employer’s discretion. You don’t get to pick your own schedule for a year.
Leave to care for or bond with a newborn child or for a newly placed adopted or foster child may only be taken intermittently with the employer’s approval and must conclude within 12 months after the birth or placement.
Post # 65
We use a liscenced in-home daycare. We absolutely love it. I have worked in several centers and we weren’t opposed to that, but in our town only one takes infants, and there were no openings when we needed care. There are pros and cons to both. That I won’t list, unless asked because I typed them before and wasn’t logged in and don’t feel like typing again. Haha.
I would have loved to be a stay at home parent growing up, however, since I am a teacher I get to spend 2 1/2 months in the summer at home with my kids. So I feel like it is a win-win. I get to stay home with them and do something I love!
Post # 66
that is a good point, I did real the fmla policy and application form on our intranet and it specifies 480 hours of lwop taken within year of the qualifying event. The form and procedure seems really straightforward. But you are correct, you use your pto prior to using fmla. Plus they always put out an email to everyone letting them know they can donate leave to you. I’ll admit, that’s not my fav part of the procedure.
I did ask a couple of coworkers if they took it as a lump of time Vs using it in parts, but both took it as a lump sum of time. I have a friend in HR that I’m going to ask for advice the next time I see her. This is a new plan and we’re still working through it, but we’ve cut a long time until the baby is due to work things out.
Thankfully both mine and Dh’s work are pretty family friendly. I’m one of hundreds of employees at my same level doing mostly the same job, its sort of hard to describe without being too specific.
That is, if we decide to go this route. This is the current plan, but it’s subject to change. My mom has been talking about retiring for awhile now, although she hasn’t said it would be soon, she did drop some hints about wanting to retire and spend time with her new grandbaby. Honestly, her watching the baby would be my fav plan if she does make that choice.
if would be nice to find that sort of daycare, I just can’t figure out how to find one. All our friends in the area with young kids have a baby or stay at home parent. And reviews don’t really give you the complete picture. Plus, when you ask questions, you have to hope you are asking the right person the right question. I know when I was interviewing daycares for my last foster daughter, I got some answers I knew were wrong from the receptionist(usually questions related to violations documented by the state ). I’ve moved since then ande and Dh aren’t planning to do daycare tours or make firm plans until at least October.
Post # 67
We use a combination. I dropped to working part time and we do 2 days daycare and 1 day with a family member
Post # 68
I never even thought to ask about staff turnover, but then DS’ nursery was brand new and hadn’t opened yet when I signed him up so it wouldn’t have been a helpful thing to ask.
He has been there about 4 months now and loves it. The only difficulty is if he misses any days (llness or holiday) it takes him a while to settle back into going.
I would encourage you to think about what will happen when the baby is sick. We faced the first sickness last week and it was stressful. DH and I both took a day each to watch him at home and grandpa helped a bit as he is retired.
I am now pregnant with #2 and I will be a Stay-At-Home Mom after my maternity leave for this one. The cost of two in nursery and travelling up to London every day would just wipe out my salary. There is no point at all. That said I want to keep DS in nursery for a few half days / days a week while #2 is a newborn. Partly to help me but also because I think it is great for his social skills and learning.
Post # 69
We don’t want to put our kids in daycare as they’re such sponges when they’re young and we want to be the ones raising them. I don’t know if I could just stay at home and raise kids though. I had four weeks off after our honeymoon and I nearly went mad! Plan is a stay at home business, also my husband works from home & his retired parents live next door. We are all sorted!
we get 12 months maternity leave here ( it’s the law) . 26 weeks of this is paid by the government.
Post # 70
Our current ‘plan’ I’d to have a nanny (possibly, really all comes down to cost). I work from home and do have some flexibility but I can’t guarantee that I could watch baby all the time so I would love a helping hand during work hours but still being able to keep an eye on baby and the nanny and how my LO is treated.
I also know my in-laws would love to watch the baby but they live to far away for it to be a daily occurrence. We are thinking of moving closer eventually (depends on Hubby’s work) and then it would be more doable for them to watch LO everyday. So that would be the best option.