Post # 1
My fiancé and I have a pretty large extended family and it’s really important to us to include the children in the day. A number of my close cousins have many small children – one cousin, her husband and kids would take up a table of 8. We absolutely want these families whom we love very much to attend the wedding, and in order to come, a lot of them will have to travel to be here with us, and we know they will. That being said, we don’t want our elegant reception to be filled with small children and all the needs that come with them. We want adult guests to have a chance to have adult conversations, and we want the children to enjoy themselves. We found a venue that offers pool parties for children, and the event planner would be happy to host a pool and pizza party for the young guests of our wedding while the adults have their meal, wine and the toasts. Then the children would join us again for the dance. We love this idea, but my grandmother said she thinks it’s tacky. What do you think?
Post # 2
I think the idea sounds good, but my concern would be safety. I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my young child at a pool party if I wasn’t there to watch them.
Post # 3
Fall_In_Love22: I totally agree. If there was a pool party, then as a parent I would constantly be in and out checking on my children.
Also before and after swimming the kids would need to get changed, which would require parental help with young children.
I think an activity for the children is a good idea, but I’d prefer something else, which didn’t involve changing clothes and parental supervision.
Post # 4
Will you have certified life guards on duty? Because that would be a huge liability if (god forbid) something happened to one of the kids. A pool party isn’t as simple as baby sitting kids. You’re dealing with being responsible for kids both in and out of the pool. And all eyes should be on the pool and not what’s going on around on the deck.
Why not book a conference room, ask for the tables and chairs to be moved, and have a pizza and dance or pizza and movie party in there instead? That would be far more controllable and safer than having kids in a pool!
Post # 5
MrsCareFree: Do they provide trained and certified lifeguards? What is the staff to child ratio?
Some children are simply too young for such an activity.
I think many parents would be reluctant to turn their children over to total strangers for a pool party. There are dozens of posts from Bees who won’t even consider a babysitter outside the family, much less combining a stranger and a pool.
Post # 6
I would never leave my child unattended at a pool, lifeguard or not. It sounds like a tragedy waiting to happen.
Post # 7
Have the event planner plan some other activity. Hire a couple of babysitters to get the little ones fed in another room then play games etc with them till it’s item for them to join the party.
Post # 8
You say you want to include children on your day but it sounds like you don’t really want them there and want an adult reception. And that’s find but I can’t imagine many parents will be comfortable leaving their kids at a pool party even if there is a lifeguard.
Post # 9
I love the idea of an alternate activity for kids who aren’t able to sit through a reception dinner, I just don’t know if a pool party is the best choice. The only time I would leave a young child at a pool without me or a trusted family member to watch them would be for an organized swim class. other then that, the risk of drowning is way too high. If it was older kids (around 10 is where I would start to feel comfortable with the idea) who all knew how to swim, and an adequate number of lifeguards, it could work.