(Closed) Poor Excuse for missing my Wedding or over reacting

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 8
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jamesjean23:  is your bestfriend and former Maid/Matron of Honor the same person? 

Post # 9
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jamesjean23:  You said you “freaked out and stopped talking to her” so I’m not exactly sure why you’d expect her to be there?  It seems weird that you’d even invite someone to your wedding that you’re not speaking to.  

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@jamesjean23:  we must have posted at the same time.Iwas almost sure they were different ppl.  I think you are in the right. Your Maid/Matron of Honor is selfish and immature for wanted green beer over the honor of standing up with you. Your bestfriend sounds lame, having your brother is your best choice. It sounds to me like you might want to clean out your friends closet. I hope you enjoy your day.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@jamesjean23:  Yeah. I still think you overreacted with the first Maid/Matron of Honor. Sure, it was a stupid comment on her part, and she could have apologized. But to outright cut her out for one little sentence? That’s redic.

As for the other? friend, why dont you give her a call and explain (again) that you didn’t want the wedding party. You obviously HAD a Maid/Matron of Honor a bit ago, and if this isn’t the same person, then I could see how she was upset she wasn’t included in your original plans. Why wasn’t she included if she was your best friend? 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@jamesjean23:  I’m sure 90% of my guests would rather be somewhere else than a wedding. Dont take it so personally. It would be one thing if she was actually planning on skipping your wedding for a St. Pat’s party.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ok. I still think you overreacted about the Maid/Matron of Honor from the first part.

I am curious as to why this girl states away is your ‘best friend,’ and wasn’t chosen as your MOH? Are you like me with the multiple BFF thing??

Post # 17
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3567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It was a stupid flip comment, it sounds like you blew it out of proportion, it seems very petty to end a friendship over one comment. You need to step back, gain some perspective and realize while your wedding is important so are your friends, they make mistakes and sometimes can be insensitive but is it really worth it  to end a friendship over one day?

Post # 18
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14045 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you definitely over-reacted with your Maid/Matron of Honor.  She made an off-hand comment which was probably a bad joke, and you kicked her out of your wedding party?  Honestly, there are very few reasons I can think of that are worthy of kicking a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor out of the wedding party, and a bad joke isn’t one of them.

As for the other friend… she sent you a 3 page letter.  Are any of her points valid?  You bring up the fact that it was a long letter, but not the content, which makes me think like she said something true and you aren’t saying it because you’re here looking for validation that you aren’t in the wrong. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@jamesjean23:  But you did, at one point, have a wedding party with a Maid/Matron of Honor. That’s why I can see why the second friend is upset. If you didn’t include her in the original plans, then she may be thinking you did it on purpose.

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