(Closed) Poor Excuse for missing my Wedding or over reacting

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She made a flippant comment, you freaked out and de-MOHed her. She is understandably upset. I think you should apologize and tell her you really want her there. 

Post # 4
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4824 posts
Honey bee

She is giving you the same treatment you gave her, probably better. She wrote you a letter explaining why she isnt coming. 

You stopped talking to her and demoted her over a comment- not even an action. Without being there should could have been joking, half joking or serious, but either way it seems at the time of her comment she had full intentions of coming. 

If I were her and you did that to me, I wouldnt feel the need to come either. You werent a friend to her.

Post # 5
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2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe her comment was a little rude, but it sounds like you totally over-reacted. Why WOULD she come to your wedding after you demoted her, and haven’t spoken to her? I certainly wouldn’t travel to be there.

Post # 6
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2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lefeymw:  Agreed.

Post # 8
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jamesjean23:  is your bestfriend and former Maid/Matron of Honor the same person? 

Post # 9
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jamesjean23:  You said you “freaked out and stopped talking to her” so I’m not exactly sure why you’d expect her to be there?  It seems weird that you’d even invite someone to your wedding that you’re not speaking to.  

Post # 12
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jamesjean23:  we must have posted at the same time.Iwas almost sure they were different ppl.  I think you are in the right. Your Maid/Matron of Honor is selfish and immature for wanted green beer over the honor of standing up with you. Your bestfriend sounds lame, having your brother is your best choice. It sounds to me like you might want to clean out your friends closet. I hope you enjoy your day.

Post # 13
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jamesjean23:  Yeah. I still think you overreacted with the first Maid/Matron of Honor. Sure, it was a stupid comment on her part, and she could have apologized. But to outright cut her out for one little sentence? That’s redic.

As for the other? friend, why dont you give her a call and explain (again) that you didn’t want the wedding party. You obviously HAD a Maid/Matron of Honor a bit ago, and if this isn’t the same person, then I could see how she was upset she wasn’t included in your original plans. Why wasn’t she included if she was your best friend? 

Post # 14
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jamesjean23:  I’m sure 90% of my guests would rather be somewhere else than a wedding. Dont take it so personally. It would be one thing if she was actually planning on skipping your wedding for a St. Pat’s party.

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