Post # 17
oh it’s subtle – “and their son xxxxx”… Their son wasn’t invited on the invite or otherwise. I knew when I saw that that there was trouble brewing. It was also because she had thrown a tizz at Future Mother-In-Law because we’d put “Hername and Hisname” on the invite and she was incensed that it wasnt “Hisname and Hername” … wtf??? I didn’t think people here were that crazy on etiquette. Future Mother-In-Law told her it was because she’s FH’s cousin but wasnt even thinking much about it.
Post # 18
that makes 2 of us. I had a child-free wedding and I did make one exception for my
cousin so I guess OP isn’t THAT upset or they would’ve done it. Unfortunately when you choose to not include kids some parents will choose not to come.
Post # 19
if FH’s cousin wanted to come she could figure out a way to make it work, even if she came on her own. Her family are angry that she’s not putting in any effort, not for the first time. I’ve learned a bit more since I posted my message. Sounds like it didn’t take long for them to get over initial disappointment. They think she’s being petulant and turns out they actually can’t care less because its obvious she doesn’t care about her family.
Post # 20
@goingtotherooftopoflove: why are any of you letting this bug you? You invited her, she declined (in a rude way), so just accept her no and give her no further thought or attention. Whatever you do, don’t try to beg her to come.
Parents like this want you to feel bad – otherwise she would have just sent their regrets without the snarky, pointed note. They want you to beg so they feel powerful and you feel punished. They want family drama and outrage over your cruel choice not to have kids at your wedding. You deserve it for daring to not include their perfect little snowflake. Don’t you understand the world will stop spinning on its axis if they leave their kid with a sitter for a few hours?
Who needs her? Let her sit home hovering over that poor kid.
Post # 21
THANK YOU. This, exactly. Just took me a tad too long to get there :l
And with that, I think it’s time to bring this to a close 🙂