(Closed) Poor latch success stories?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My son had a shallow latch too and my lactation consultant missed it. I took him to the dentist that does the laser revisions and he was diagnosed with a severe posterior tongue tie and moderate lip tie. I got them released and the pain went away eventually, but he was already 3 months old and it was hard to retrain him to nurse better. Go as soon as possible if you want to get this checked out. 

I also wanted to add that it was difficult to see the posterior tongue tie. The dentist showed me and he had to have my son in a certain position and fold his tongue way back. I think that’s why they can get missed by doctors or LCs that don’t deal with them daily. 

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Post # 17
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

Breastfeeding is hard! Even my SIL, who has breastfed all 3 of her babies into their 2nd year of life, had a really hard time establishing breastfeeding with her first. It took her months to really get comfortable with it – both her and my niece.

I had a similar situation to claudiavu! My baby was in the NICU for 8 days after birth – he had low blood sugar and an infection – and we weren’t able to really try breastfeeding for long periods until his blood sugar was up to normal levels. I was only allowed to try for 10 minutes before we gave him a bottle because he didn’t have enough energy to breastfeed – at first he wasn’t able to figure out how to drink from the bottle either, so he was fed through a tube.

DS eventually learned how to latch well, but my milk didn’t come in until about a week after he was born, and even then, my milk supply was never enough for him. So I tried to build up my milk supply for 3 months (I used an SNS at one point, too) before I decided it was stressing me out too much – the whole process of trying to breastfeed, then bottle feeding him when he didn’t get enough, then pumping would take me an hour + every feeding. I started just pumping as much as I could for him and giving him formula for the majority of his feedings. I was really down about this, but then I found out that my mom’s milk never came in for either myself or my brother. Now I’m happy I’m able to give DS what I can.

Sometime it just takes time for baby to learn how to latch correctly, but sometimes breastfeeding doesn’t work out. So, try for however long you want, but don’t be hard on yourself if things don’t work out and don’t let the situation stress you out – that’s not good for you or the baby. I hope it all works out for you!

Post # 18
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

kb7:  My boy is 9 months old now and still EBF (well, solids now too for the past few months). We had tremendous trouble for the first couple months. This will be long on words and short on suggestions, but I hope it encourages you or at least makes you feel like you’re not the only one going through it.

For starters, my milk came in late (like, day 5) and he was jaundiced, so we had to supplement with formula a little at the beginning just to keep him going. He was born a few weeks early and was a very little peanut of a kid. He was diagnosed with a posterior tongue tie and lip tie by a dentist who specializes in ties, and when he was 7 days old we had both ties revised via laser. No immediate change, cracked bleeding nipples, toe curling pain every time I nursed. I tried everything within my power to improve his latch but never got anywhere. (I did skip nipple shields though because I was worried about nipple confusion and frankly when I tried them they didn’t seem to help much.)

Under guidance of a lactation consultant (and believe me, I met several of them before I found one who really seemed to “get” us, so shop around if you have to), we spent the first few weeks of his life alternating between EBF until the pain/damage got so bad I couldn’t continue, and me pumping while my husband finger fed the baby (it was too much for me to manage all at once, and we did not want to introduce bottles too early out of fear of nipple confusion). Obviously this second strategy only worked when my husband could stay home from work because America is a piece of crap when it comes to family leave. So after about the first three or four weeks, I started trying to tough it out and nurse more, and we also introduced bottles of pumped milk. Those were hard days… most night feedings would involve both of us, and after the last feed in the morning before my husband left for work, I would usually dissolve into tears thinking about how many painful nursing sessions I would have to get through before he got home and could help again. Dark days. Guilt, dread, lots of PPD. 

All along, there was a more painful side and an easier side. Around five weeks, I noticed that the easier side was getting even easier, and around six weeks the easier side was pain-free. By seven or eight weeks (it’s all a blur now), the painful side improved too. Once he was about 2.5 months old, I was pain free.

I ultimately have to conclude that he just had to grow up. His little mouth had to get bigger, his little jaw had to relax on both sides, and he had to get the hang of it. Maybe he had to overcome some physical stress from a difficult birth, who knows. Honestly the best thing I heard was at four weeks, our lactation consultant finally said “it’s not you, it’s him.” After weeks of sobbing every time someone said “breastfeeding shouldn’t hurt if you’re doing it right.” it was the kindest thing she could have told me. 

You are doing everything you can, and that’s all you can do. Your worth as a mother isn’t wrapped up in breastfeeding success, although I know firsthand how much guilt you can feel if it isn’t working. Be kind to yourself, find a LC who really listens, maybe reevaluate that tongue tie situation. It’s hard to see when you are in “one feeding at a time” mode, but eventually this will resolve one way or another because you love your child and will always make the right call. A happy, healthy baby and mom really are the most important thing.

Post # 21
9157 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

kb7:  a dentist or ENT.  make sure they use a laser.

we had poor latching issues due to DS being 3 weeks early.  at 7 weeks, my LC saw the lip and tongue tie.  i didn’t add DS to our dental policy, so i used an ENT that was covered under medical.


Post # 22
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

kb7 :  she went to an ent. The lactation consultant missed it both times. Her La Leche League ladies caught it and recommended an ent

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