(Closed) ~Poor Manners in the Hive~

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
2701 posts
Sugar bee

I think that some are very opinionated and often don’t consider how their comments will be taken when read by another. I personally try very very hard not to say something if I don’t have anything nice to say. In some bees defense, I think often comments are taken out of context a little due to our entire relationship with each other is solely typing and text. There is no body language or facial expressions to go off of. I will agree that I have come across some comments that I wouldn’t have said to anyone, however. I’m sorry you feel like you should edit yourself on the Bee because you’re worried. Ignore the nastiness because for every nasty bee, there’s 5 wonderful ones!!

Post # 4
Member
962 posts
Busy bee

@gvsusara: there are a couple of people who I think are a little more opinionated and hostile than I would like. It’s not so much a question of them being rude, it’s mroe a question of them consistenly overreacting to situations. I  ignore them. For the most part, I think the Bee is actually pretty pleasant. I’m sorry that you have had problems.

Post # 5
Member
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I have no “happy” thoughts or comments about this thread.

Post # 6
Member
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@gvsusara: I’ve seen a couple people that may have been having a couple “bad days”, so their tones may not have been polite. I get where you’re coming from.

Don’t let it encumber your own personal use and enjoyment of this site. Just keep being yourself, and let the positive energy in. The cool thing about this site is you have the choice of ignoring rude remarks, and focusing on the nice bees that make weddingbee worthwhile.

 

Post # 7
Member
2091 posts
Buzzing bee

TBH, threads like this do nothing more than start even more drama.

Post # 8
Member
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think that starting threads like this is no way to bring out the happy thoughts or comments you’re looking for. 

Post # 9
Member
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah these kinds of threads don’t do much good, to be honest.  If you find something offensive, just flag it. It’s up to the mods to determine if its worthy of addressing, and if not, then it’s probably a-ok with the Hive. 

Post # 10
Member
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

There are some rude posters, yes.  But as others have pointed out, posting about it usually doesn’t correct the issue.  Best policy is to ignore them unless they’re being very defamatory, then as @KristenGotMarried: suggested, flag.  These threads get started often and it rubs other members the wrong way.  Rudeness was big reason why I took a 3 month break from WB Wink

Post # 11
Member
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Threads like this are usually not a great idea. I agree with PPs, just flag a post if you think its too over the top rude or what not. I love the bee 🙂 I just click the X if a thread is getting on my nerves.

Post # 12
Member
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I find this website mostly extremely supportive and polite. Considering the anonymity of online life, I think it is impressive.  I like that there is a reminder to avoid ‘personal attacks and snarkiness’ when you are leaving a comment.

Post # 14
Member
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yup, in the future if you see anything that goes against our community rules.  http://www.weddingbee.com/community-guidelines/  The best thing to do is to flag it.  Try not to respond the the member because it may or may not cause  it to be heated.  A mod will see the flag and deal with it with what is appropriate.

Like the community rules say, we try to maintain a supportive environment and without personal attacks and any snarkiness.  People are free to have a discussion and if they disagree are free to disagree.  It’s when they pass that line  of being snarky is when mods have to step in.

But anyway, feel free to FLAG AWAY.  The mods and the hostesses don’t read every thread so if one member says something snarky and no one flags it, no one will know about it. And so the members get away with it.  Also, I don’t think these members do it on purpose but maybe they don’t know the rules around here. Getting out pitchforks probably won’t help.  Just remember everyone here was a new member at some point.

Post # 15
Member
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’ve never come in contact with a “rude” Bee. This site, to me, is one of the most supportive and constructive sites I have seen in a really long time. I have seen Bee’s who don’t agree on things and I’ve seen threads get really heated but I think everyone is entitled to their opinions and expressing them doesn’t make them “rude.”

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