(Closed) Porn?

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@KristenTN152:  I can sort of see why some churches may have a problem with porn..perhaps “preserving” something. Im Lutheran and in my opinion whatever the couple is comfortable with in the bedroom is their business only.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@KristenTN152:  I think no one should be watching porn (especially Christians) alone, or as a couple. I think people can underestimate the power it has on people. I think that it can cause jealousy and unrealistic expectations that can destroy a marriage..even if both people think that nothing is wrong with it, and it won’t affect them.

 

From a Christian point of view, I feel like the Bible makes it clear that porn is something that followers shouldn’t be dabbling in.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Porn works out of lust & also “shares the bed” with a couple, as even an image can act as a stimulus just like an actual person. Lust is clearly not in line with walking with God. Biblically speaking sharing your heart, sexual desire, and even intimate thought with anything other than your spouse is not condoned.

Inviting porn into a Godly marriage is sharing your sexual intimacy along with condoning sex outside of God’s design (which is sex only within the covenant of marriage).

Definitely not something to start, and if it has been part of the relationship it’s definitely something to remove so that the intimacy that God designed a marriage to have can be grown.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think it matters that you are with your spouse when you view porn, you are still being turned on by people that you aren’t married to. That is not ok in my book. Your marriage relationship should be just the two of you and no one else in any form. If anyone feels like they need porn in their sex life with their spouse, I think they need to work on their intimacy as a couple. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

1. Porn is EXTREMELY addictive, and harmful to marriages because it desensitizes arousal and makes it difficult to become aroused by one’s own spouse. This is especially true for men, who are more visual.

2. According to Jesus, looking at someone with lust is the same thing as sleeping with him or her.

3. Watching porn means supporting the porn industry– you become part of the reason for every action that went into that movie.

When I was younger, I thought it was okay for married people. I started to think twice when I slowly realized tha almost every young man I knew was fighting some level of addiction, christian and non-christian.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

when I slowly realized tha almost every young man I knew was fighting some level of addiction, christian and non-christian


So true! Infact it’s around 50% of men AND 30% of women IN THE CHURCH are battling porn.

Porn is a direct assualt on God’s intended idea for marriage. He wants SO much more for us!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel like I say the following phrase a lot: I don’t mean to offend anyone that disagrees, but:

I am not a fan of porn for anyone. Like PPs said, looking upon someone else outside the marriage (even just an image) with lust isn’t ok. I also feel that the sex industry is degrading and damaging to both women and men.

In light of this, what’s all of your’s opinion if the, um, erotic material is made and consumed only by the couple? Home sex videos, boudoir photography, etc?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@risingsun:  Anything that promotes lust is a no-no.

Something that Darling Husband brought to my attention just a couple months after we got married is that you can acutally lust after your spouse!

I had never really thought about it, but the way he talked about it was even just thinking too much about how & when we were intimate just feeding that desire in him to a point that it wasn’t honoring to me… it wasn’t in the true intimacy that God wants for us, but more about the “flesh” fulfillment.

SO…… no we don’t do anything that could pervert our intimacy for the other.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@KristenTN152:  My church is very against porn in any form as well. I think my big problem is that it’s so fake and creates unreasonable ideas and expectations for both men and women.  I think if people are looking to spice things up there are plenty of ways that don’t involve bringing in other people or things that are possibly gross and simply not real.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@MsCarabiner:  I think an important thing to remember is “my church” and what is “gross” come down to alot of personal opinion. =/

Some churches are just fine with cohabiting, drinking, etc while others aren’t

What isn’t a matter of opinion is what is based by the plumb line of scripture… I mean scripture makes clear that all lust should be avoided and sex is only allowed within the confines of the marriage convenant & not to be shared.

I mean what you think is gross may be very different than what I think is gross… I mean I wasn’t always a believer & Darling Husband definitely have a spice filled sexual relationship BUT we would never do something that would compromise our walk in staying righteous with God. 😉

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@risingsun:  I think the videos would be playing with fire (what if they were found by someone else?) but the boudoir photos wouldn’t bother me (they generally seem more ‘artistic’).

As for lusting after your spouse…has anyone read the Song of Solomon?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Luayne:  Oh yea… the difference between the passion of Song of Solomon & lust is that all throughout the Song of Solomon we see a desire to please the other… where lust turns into selfish desire of ‘you’ being satified without the same regards of the other… This would generally take place in just one spouses thoughts that feed that desire to “be with” the other, but could definitely progress to how they display affection in the bedroom.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well, my couple and I watched porn together a couple of times, it didnt become addictive or anything and we dont look at it anymore because we have better things to do with our time.

 

I think it’s ok if that’s what the couple likes, as long as they know the difference between porn and how they can please each other.

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