(Closed) PORN PORN PORN

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: do you mind if your fiance/husband watches porn
    No not at all... : (143 votes)
    68 %
    Yes it makes me think Im not enough ... : (50 votes)
    24 %
    With me Im ok with it but on his own is a NO .. : (17 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    ….ask him if he needs a hand.

    Post # 5
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    6741 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Nona99:  I usually just tell him that it’s a good thing he has two! lol

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Milan21xx:  … so I sit next to him and watch with him, which usually leads to “sexy time”

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’ll answer this the same way I always answer this: If it is just admiring a body and getting off to it? No big deal. I feel this way about strip clubs, lap dances and porn. I’m not cool with him having sex with someone else, but aside from that, as long as there is no romantic interest on either end, I’m not remotely worried or jealous.

     

    He picked me. I trust him.

    Post # 10
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Join in or take him to the bedroom.  I don’t care if he watches porn alone, I watch it alone too.

    Post # 11
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    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I didn’t vote because I’m not ok with it but it doesn’t make me feel like I’m not enough, I view it as cheating. Especially since he and I discussed this in the beginning stages of our relationship.

     

    Now if he wants something from me yes I will give him pictures or w/e but I don’t agree with him looking at other women in that form. Goes against my moral and religious beliefs.

    Post # 12
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    1227 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t know if he does (I assume he does, because honestly, I think 99% of men do, whether they’ll admit it or not) and I don’t ask. Sometimes you just need that quick fix without having to worry about anyone else, so if porn is part of that for him, more power to him.  It’s occassionally a part of that for me, too.

    Post # 13
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    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Fine with me! So long as its not on my laptop. He can use his own.

    Post # 14
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Um.  Just because you don’t watch porn doesn’t mean it is because it makes you feel like you are not enough. 

    Post # 15
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    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It doesn’t make me think I’m “not enough” I just find it’s degrading… (here you think I’m going to say “to women” which might be the case but no, my problem is that it’s degradding to…) the quality of our sex lives!

    I had an ex who developed a porn problem (first started watching it a little online and then more and more and MORE) and the sex just kept getting worse and worse and WORSE, meanwhile he also seemed to be getting more and more depressed and having lower self-esteem. No not MY self-esteem, HIS self-esteem. Not in the bedroom, but in general. He was otherwise a nice guy but even niceness wears thin when the person is a dud in bed and a dud in life. He eventually became little more than a porn-guzzling bump on a log and he knew it too. So he understood when I wearied of dragging him along with me as I was living life!!

    I’m glad Fiance doesn’t have much of a taste for porn. It’s not verboten around here (in small doses) but I don’t need another porn addict dragging me down.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @pinkgreenandyellow:  +1

    Doesn’t make me feel like I’m ‘not enough,’ but Fiance and I both agree that it’s something that he shouldn’t do, and something that I shouldn’t do, either.

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