Post # 1
So, without going into too many details I have a question to ask…
Which wedding would you prefer to attend or have?
One would be in a church. The church is a new age church, with a huge stage and no decor at all. Beams on the cealing and just plain. No alcohol would be served at the reception since it would be in a church. But they do have restrooms.
Or the other place which is a beautiful piece of property, it would all be outdoors, located on the river with flower bushes and magnolia trees everywhere. Alcohol would be served, open bar. But no way to get a restroom trailer in there so there would be porta potties. Of course the restroom baskets and such, but clean sanitized porta potties.
The invitation states “casual attire” so you wouldn’t be dressed up. The ceremony and reception would be 2-6pm total time. Which would you go with or attend?
I ask this because we are going with the outdoor location but someone in the family is insisting everyone would be happier if we had it at the church and would cut costs without needing to buy alcohol
Editing to add: I am Christian, we both are. It was the most important thing regarding our wedding was that a preacher marry us. He is willing to have the ceremony at the outdoor location. I feel it would be more spiritual being outside in the place that was created so beautifully. I am also native american and our ceremony will be 1/2 christian 1/2 native american which I also feel would be more suiting being outdoors instead of indoors.
Post # 3
I chose outside, but at that time of day (relatively early) I don’t think people would mind not having alcohol either
Post # 4
I love weddings where everyone mingles and has fun so I choose a casual reception with alcohol every day of the week.
Post # 5
@WestCoast: I LOVE the outdoors, and am not religious, so the church one has absolutely NO appeal whatsoever for me.
Outside = beautiful, different, and awesome. Alcohol = bonus! Totally worth it. 🙂
Post # 6
@lovelove1028: this is your wedding. If you’re not religious and you do prefer outdoors, do it outdoors!!
Post # 7
Thanks for your opinions! It seems like being outdoors would be easier for everyone to be comfortable and relax and enjoy the scenery, heck we’re gonna have chairs lined along the river for guests to sit, there’s even a tree bench swing to sit on for the guests, the ceremony and reception will be in the same location and it’s a short reception so those who don’t feel comfortable outside wont feel too bad leaving early. But a certain someone insists everyone would be better off in the church. I am religious but our preacher is willing to marry us outdoors which I feel is more special being out in the open confessing our love and devotion to one another. And we’re having a partial native american ceremony which just wouldn’t seem right cooped up inside a new age building with beams and lights and boards and large projections screens and such all around
Post # 8
While I’d like to have alcohol, I much prefer to be inside than outside, and have real bathrooms too.
Post # 9
The one with alcohol, hands down
Post # 10
Lol, I am a girlie girl, and HAVE TO HAVE REAL FLUSHIES in my life
So as much as I think the outdoor location sounds gorgeous (and I love wine), I’d not be too thrilled to find out the only option was a Porta-Potty
PLUS from your planning point of view, you also need to have a back-up plan for iffy / bad weather (and don’t get me started on the joys of porta-potties in bad weather… mud, ick)
Other than that… I’m assuming that you are only describing the Base Point for both these locations… in that you’d be decorating / personalizing BOTH of them if you were to go with one of them (so the big box bare room wouldn’t necessarily stay that way)
The Church doesn’t sound half-bad at all… especially as it is an Afternoon Wedding (Reception maybe 2:30 to 6:00 PM)… so as others have said, I can’t imagine folks wanting a lot of alcohol to begin with.
(I’m envisioning fruit punch, hors d’ouevres, fancy sandwiches, Wedding Cake, Tea & Coffee… AND IF Booze was an option, a toasting glass of Sparkling when the Cake was cut… but even if you can only do a toast with Gingerale… it still doesn’t sound half-bad. And 3.5 Hours will fly by for both you and your Guests, you’ll be amazed)
All things considered… I vote for the Church.
Hope this helps,
Post # 11
If I was choosing between the two, I’d much rather attend the outdoor wedding. It sounds far more enjoyable and beautiful! It isn’t just about the alcohol either, although being able to have a drink is great. It just sounds like a much nicer space. I am sure people can deal with a clean portapotty, it isn’t like it’s an outdoor concert/festival or something, ha 😉
Post # 12
Thank you again for the replies, I guess I’m just searching for some peace of mind here, which I’ve gotten 🙂
And I’m in search for a porta potty attendant right now, probably a teenage boy we can pay a little money to at the end of the night to keep it clean and sanitary. We’ve got all the necessities already, the air fresheners and such, only need disinfectant spray now
Post # 13
For the record I had no idea people were so anti-portapotti until I joined the bee also had no idea there were portable trailers with bathrooms. There will be portapottis at my wedding as well, and I would prefer the outdoor wedding but probably would have maybe one drink between 2 and 6 thats just way to early to drink for me.
Post # 14
Outdoors with alcohol, no question!
Post # 15
@WestCoast: Woops!! I am not the original poster, and neither are you! Haha. I had intended on replying to the OP but clicked your name accidentally… sorry about that! XD
Post # 16
I’ve been to plenty of beautiful weddings with porter potties. No one complained. I’ve seen plenty of no-alcohol related complaints.