(Closed) pos. pregnancy test..planned wedding for october?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you are Catholic (so am I) I can almost bet money on your priest suggesting you push the wedding back… It will all depend on our lenient he is… My cousin and her fiancé’ had a baby before they got married and he would only marry them if they abstained for a year and went to a ton of classes.. Even though the wedding is already set the Church says that people should enter into a marriage freely and without external pressures, he may even suggest you wait a year AFTER the baby is born to be married. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@Jerseygirl23: Does the Catholic Church frown on you going to a courthouse to make it legal and then getting married in the Church after that? I’m just asking because I know a couple of my friends did that. Congrats on your baby!!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Congrats on the baby even though the timing might be tough. I’m going to say that October would not be a good time for you to get married. The baby will be a newborn and it will just  be too stressful.

How important is it to you that you be married before the baby’s born? Some people that is extrememly important and other people it’s not.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@bRooklynRocks: Honestly, I don’t know… 🙁 I’m no expert, just sharing what I’ve learned in the past and what I’ve seen others experience…

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

congrats!

i would push it up. mrs. dumpling was married in the catholic church while she was pregnant.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Check out Mrs. Dumpling’s posts (she’s a bee who got married about a year and a half ago, I think). They found out she was a couple months pregnant a few months before the (Catholic) wedding, and I think she was about 5 months or so on the wedding day. Sounds like their priest was pretty cool about it. She’s also at theomgmom.com and I’m sure you could send her a message and ask for advice or more about her experience.

Also, congratulations!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Good luck and congratulations !  I think if it were me, I’d push it up.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would also push it up.

 

Post # 12
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree pushing it sooner makes more sense then postponing it.  I would not want to worry about planning a wedding after a baby arrived.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Maybe you and your Fiance should make a solid plan about what you want to do before telling your parents?  Maybe call the people you have deposits with and ask them if they will let you move the date up without losing your deposit (and if they have any availability).  This way when you approach your parents you have an actionable plan instead of a lot of I don’t knows.

But I think you should really let your parents know if you are planning on moving it up.  Especially if they are paying for/or contributing to the wedding since moving it up gives everyone a shorter time to save for the event.

If you do or don’t decide to move it up, you two should also consider what your situation will be regarding health care.  I don’t know if you work and have your own insurance or if you are still on your parents’ but you should see if your pregnancy care is covered.  And you should also speak to your FI’s insurance (if he has any) to see if they will cover your pregnancy if you got married sooner or if they would deny you and deem it a pre-existing condition.

If you are still on your parents’ insurance you should see if they will still give you coverage if you got married before the baby is born.

Good luck and congratulations! 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

congrats date twin!!!  So, when would you be due?  Could you reschedule with your vendors for a winter wedding?  I am assuming it would be significantly cheaper, and could motivate you to shed some of the baby weight… I am thinking like a Feb or March wedding?  

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