Post # 1
I think my situation is just one of these things, and you get to a point in life where everyone feels a bit like this. I’m feeling restless, I guess it’s at the point where OH and I are together for 4 and 1/2 years, he isn’t ready to get engaged yet because he’s still in education, he wants to focus on that which is understandable. I’m currently unemployed and looking for work so money is pretty tight. OH is always reminding me that we don’t have any money and telling me not to think about the future too because we don’t know what it is going to happen (eg. weddings/holidays) .I’m one of those people who uses positive things in the future to motivate myself in the present, which is probably a bad habit. I feel like postive things are hopefully in the future and in this point in my life that nothing too positive is happening so I’m stuck. I feel like I want to get away or something for a bit. (maybe visit my parents or gran who live about 2 hours away from OH and I) though I’m not sure if this would be ‘running away’ from the situation.
I feel like I need to make a positive change in my life, to change something to stop myself feeling like this. I don’t know if this makes across as selfish. Perhaps I just need to keep the faith and know that this period is my life is just the change into being a ‘grown up’ (I’m 22 currently, out of university for 6 months, I had a job straight out of university but it didn’t work out and now looking for work again), though not directly talked to OH I’m pretty sure he would advice me to keep the faith and remember that we’re at the working towards our future.
Post # 3
This may sound off topic, but hear me out…
Could you maybe volunteer somewhere a few hours every Saturday? Find a local animal rescue, visit elderly folks in a nursing home, check out a soup kitchen, whatever sort of organization you feel drawn to.
First, people are happier when they are doing good deeds for other people. Also, it will be a nice change of pace for you. And of course, networking is a fabulous way to make connections with people and maybe even land a job! Worst case scenario, you don’t find a job, you get bitten by a dog and your old lady bridge partner croaks mid game. I suppose that sequence of events would be highly unlikely though 😛
Post # 4
Yes, I volunteered in a charity job before I got my job out of university and I’ve started to volunteer at that place again however I don’t want to become too dependant on that.
Thanks for the suggestion!
Post # 5
There’s nothing wrong witha break, especially if you’re just going to visit family… its not like you’re running off to Jamaica on a whim. Maybe try to find something productive to do in the mean time – writing, fitness, friendships… that will keep you busy and lift your spirits. If you’re just thinking about one thing – finding a job or your relationship – that’s going to get tiresome. We all go through periods like this 🙂
Post # 6
I agree, I think a visit to family is a lovely idea and I don’t think it’s running away from it at all. We all need a bit of a break now and then and periods of transition can make you feel really crap sometimes.
Things will be on the up; a job will come around soon and before you know it, your OH will be graduating. I know how it feels, it felt like forever when we graduated last summer after 4 years long distance… now we’re 6 months away from fidning a house. Madness!
Keep going lovely 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks Girls 🙂
stuff may to looking up on the job front…
Post # 8
I find I have to have long-term plans and a lot of short-term fun. If I have something to look forward to on my calendar at least once a week, I’m much happier than if I only have dreams for 2 years from now. I like to have a couple of regularly scheduled activities so that, even if my friends and I don’t get together that week, I at least have something fun and social outside of work. You need to plan how to bring a smile to your face every day!