Post # 17
When we told our close friends and family that we were having a Destination Wedding, most of them were very amazed and supportive. I wanted to have our wedding on a tropical island outside of the US, but some people didn’t want to get a passport to travel outside the country. (How lame!) So my fiance and I agreed on Hawaii since it’s on and island and still in the states.
Post # 18
Almost everyone had something negative to say about the idea of our destination wedding. My Future Mother-In-Law even went as far to call the idea “revolting” and said she would not attend. You have to do what’s best for you guys. If people truly want to be there, they will make arrangement to be there.
Post # 19
@LyndaButterfly: You seem totally okay with not having many people there, so I can’t see any problem. I bet most of those people who reacted badly aren’t in the 20 or less people you want there.
Honestly, we’d be doing it too, but we can’t because my niece is sick and wouldn’t be able to travel that far.
You’ll have lots of support on here about your destination wedding!
Post # 20
I have to say I find DW’s a little irritating. As much as you’d rather spend the money you’d spend on a traditional wedding on something you actually want, I’d like to spend the money I have to spend attending on something i actually want. We’re well traveled and like to travel. my husbands sister had one and as much as “you only want your closest friends/family there” when you ARE that closest friends and family that feels pressured to make it work for you, it’s tough. We got married exactly a year apart and I cut TONS of corners and gave up things i really wanted so we could have the funds for a delayed NYC honeymoon. Then out found out SIL was engaged the month after our wedding and her “dream” was Maui. It cost more to ATTEND her wedding then to throw our own And it meant our honeymoon was canceled so it was tough to accept that her “dream” wedding was more important to accommodate than my own. So, just a little perspective on why reception might be a little lacklustre.
Post # 21
We talked to our “must have” wedding guests before planning our Destination Wedding to make sure they all were okay with it, and they were all very excited about the idea of making it a mini-vacation. We chose Mexico to keep airfare and hotel costs down (as opposed to Hawaii for example). It’ll just depend on your close family, how much disposable income and vacation time they have. Also I think it’s a factor that everyone in our close family is already married so it’s not like there are other weddings competing for their time and money.