- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
Sorry it took me a while to respond, but I really wanted to read your responses carefully and answer accordingly. Thank you so much for sharing 🙂
OMG, you’re so right in the patience part. I am usually a very patient person (most of the time), but yes, this whole TTC has definitely taught me to be patient and persistent. FX you get your BFP very soon and naturally would be even better.
I agree, obsessing about TTC can be a very bad thing. I started obsessing even before we started TTC, and I wasted too much thinking/planning a future I yet didn’t have. I’ve been a lot calmer lately, and that really helps. Hope you get that BFP soon.
Thank you for the great advice. I have also come to admire those going through infertility/ fertility treatment. They are so inspirational and strong…heroes really. I can emphatize and choose my words carefully when talking about babies around others much better now, especially if I know they are struggling to get pregnant. I can’t wait for you to get your BFP.
Oh lady what can I say. There is a lot of wisdom on your words. I agree taking a break helps. It helped me gain some perspective and to value what I have. It’s so true that we shouldn’t be comparing our situation/lack of BFP to what others get. I think I would go crazy if I focused on this too much. How can someone get pregnant accidentally and others that have tried for a long time don’t? I would never be able to understand this, so I rather spend time on what I can
do. I’m hopeful that you will get your BFP without needing IVF.
Congrats on getting that BFP! I think having our partner’s support is very important even though sometimes it feels like they don’t quite get it. The most important thing is to fall but to pick ourselves up. You have done that well, and the most important thing is you listened to your body. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for such wonderful advice. I love what your wrote:
For better or for worse, this entire thing is out of my hands. I know that learning to let go and finding my peace in the face of uncertainty will only help me in the long run. i’m also learning to let go of the fear that surrounds all of this uncertainty.<br /><br />I could have written this. I am a control freak too, planner and worrier. Oh gosh!! I’ve learned that getting pregnant is not something I can control, rather I can bring the elements together that would make it more likely for me to get pregnant. I am coming to peace with the fact that I cannot time a certain due date, etc. It will happen when is meant to.
I am really looking forward to your BFP! I am 100% sure that IVF will work the first time.
I love the part of taking care of yourself. TTC can really consume us to the point where we forget to do x and y. Healthy mama=healthy baby right! Thanks for sharing and congrats for getting that BFP! Have a wonderful pregnancy.