Post # 76
I haven’t read all of the posts on this thread, but I do agree that there are a lot of negative stereotypes surrounding people who make the decision to get married at a young age. Personally I think the success of any marriage has very little to do with age, and all to do with commitment level. It depends on the man and woman involved. It’s nice to hear positive stories though!! I was married young… we were both 21 and graduated from college, and my husband had enlisted in the military. We were engaged about 6 months (and had dated about 3 years) before we got married. Shortly after that my husband (who had enlisted in the military) and I moved all the way across the world to Hawaii where he was stationed. We were away from family, and really away from everyone and everything that we knew. It was our first time living together and the first time for each of us to really live on our own. Tons of bills and responsibilities and job stress later, and we’ve learned a LOT about ourselves and each other. It’s been a little difficult figuring out how the world works, but we are both happy…because even when things are difficult we both know we would rather be together than apart. It’s not the decision that everybody would make and that’s fine! Everybody is different. My parents married when they were in their 30s, and that worked out for them! My in-laws met and fell in love instantly, and they were married by 21. They have been through everything now, and are still very much in love. I love that I get to grow up with my husband. We’ll be different people at forty than we are now, and it’s exciting to me that I’ll get to see how his life changes and be a part of it. 🙂
Post # 77
My sister was married at 20 to her dh who was 22 🙂 they are a huge inspiration to me, they have been together ten years, married for eight years. They have a three year old and are thinking of having another. They grew up a lot, went through plenty of hard times already and I’m sure there is more to come, but I know their marriage will last a lifetime. I’m 25 and just now thinking of marriage. I agree with OP that everyone matures differently. There’s no way I would have been ready for marriage at 20. but I’m so glad I have such a great example.
Post # 78
I got married at 22, and am celebrating 3 years next week. I only know of one couple who is still married who got married around the same time I did. Everyone else I know who got married before I did, or around the time I got married, are divorced and some are remarried and I know at least one person divorced twice. Even though I am surrounded by failed marriages, I still think young marraige can work. Sure, most of the time it doesn’t. Most of the time. That still leaves room for success. Pretty much no one here can say their marriage is successful because as long as both of you are alive and together there will be some kind of statistic that you COULD get divorced. I got married with the belief that divorce is not an option, unless I am being abused and the thought of that is laughable. My marriage will only ever be successful when one of us dies, because that completes your vows. Otherwise it is still a work in progress. I don’t know how old my grandparents were when they got married. The one set has been married 57 or so years, and my other set ended when my grandfather died 40+ years ago, and she never remarried. She was probably in her early 20s maybe. He was 10 years older.
Post # 79
- Wedding: A restaurant on the beach
My boyfriend’s parents married at 18 and 28 and are still together many years later. I don’t know if they are necessarily happy, they sleep in seperate bedrooms etc, but they are still married so that’s something! My boyfriend and I are a young couple. We started dating at 15 and 16 and will be getting engaged soon. I’m not going to lie and say our relationship is always easy or perfect but we do love each other and work to keep things going. I believe marriage success has less to do with age and more to do with how long you’ve been dating. In my opinion 8 months is not long enough. Unfortunitly it’s many younger people who make that mistake and give a bad name to young marriage.