Post # 1
I posted here a few times years ago when I was wedding planning (do not remember my username/password), and everyone was so helpful. I could use some support.
I just got a positive pregnancy test. My period is about 3 days late, which is unusual for me, so I decided to test, and there is it. My husband and I were not actively trying and using the pull out method (I know it’s not super effective but we were using it without fail for over two years). We were going to start trying in a month or two so the timing isnt awful but I feel so STUPID.
I am not a big drinker at all, but of course last week I went to a friend’s birthday and drank a lot, and even got sick (besides this time i rarely have more than 2-3 drinks a week!). I also had sushi twice, and went to an intense work out class (I do not regularly exercise). Additionally, my husband who is an occasional pot smoker was going to quit this month because we were gonna start trying, but had smoked 1-2 a week over the last few months. I probably also lifted things and ate not too healthy and just began taking prenatals a month ago. I feel so stupid because I am generally so responsible. We are in our early 30s, financially stable and like i said were SO close to trying but not last month!
My husband is currently visiting a friend and will be back today, I havent told him yet. Im a private person and havent told anyone. I alwaya told myself I wouldnt tell people i was pregnant until a few months in, so I’m definitely not telling now.
Any advice? Im gonna take another test ASAP. I’m in shock. Ive never had a major pregnancy scare before and the few times I’ve taken a test over the years I pretty much knew the chances were slim, so I was not prepared.
Like i said, I’m not unhappy because i wanted a baby soon, but feel awful because of the dumb choices we made recently. I feel like I damaged the baby.
Thank you in advance.
Post # 2
Literally none of that (besides the prenatals) matters this early in pregnancy, like at all. And well, lots of women get pregnant when they aren’t taking prenatals. You took them for a month beforehand so that’s better than nothing and there’s nothing you can do about it anyway so there’s no use being upset about it.
My advice, is to give yourself a break and just be happy.
Post # 3
First of all congrats!
Second, deep breaths…I am certain you haven’t done anything to harm your baby, who, at this very early gestation, is not even sharing a blood supply with you yet. Now that you know you’re pregnant, by all means cut the alcohol, but so many women “drink til it’s pink” and there is no harm done. As for exercise, I’m sure that’s also fine. I exercised rigorously a few times in the very beginning of my pregnancy… then nausea set in and I became a permanent couch potato lol. I ate raw sushi throughout my entire pregnancy too…all was fine.
I recommend reading the book “Expecting Better”…it reviews all the “no no’s” of pregnancy, breaks down the research on why those rules exist and gives you the tools to make an informed decision about what you feel comfortable doing/not doing.
Post # 4
First of all, congrats! I don’t think it’s likelt that you have done any damage at this point. They say you can drink til you get a positive test – so last week you likely were okay because the embryo was likely just floating around, unaffected by things you did. Same with the workout and any lifting etc – you are typically fine to do most things in the first trimester as long as they aren’t contact sports, or causing major dehydration/overheating. The sushi and other stuff shouldn’t matter, and starting prenatals a month ago, while maybe not the most ideal, is better than plenty of people who don’t start them until they find out they are pregnant! I can’t say that I know if weed would have any impact, but my guess would be on sperm quality aka ability to get pregnant, more than any issues for the baby, I know a few people who’s partners smoked weed regularly when they got pregnant and all was well.
So breathe, enjoy, and definitely ask your doctor to confirm, but I think you are probably okay.
Post # 5
I agree that there’s no harm done this early on. Please don’t worry. It is the choices you make from now on that really matter. Congratulations!
Post # 6
Congratulations! As other PP have said- other than the prenatals, no biggie on the other adventures you’ve been having for the past month.
Congrats! And Yay!
Post # 7
High five for already being on prenatals! As others have already said, that’s the only thing that really matters at this point and you’ve been on top of it for a month already so you’re in good shape. Nothing else you listed should have any negative effect on the embryo at this stage, so be glad you had one last chance to indulge!
Post # 8
I honestly think you’re fine. You’re taking prenatals. You tested pretty early, so your supposed “mistakes” happened when baby probably wasn’t even fully implanted. I highly doubt any of that had any impact on the baby. Enjoy your pregnancy. Congrats!
ETA: My coworker’s daughter (college freshman) got pregnant and managed to never show and not figure out she was pregnant until delivery. She went about her normal college life for the entire 9 months. And her baby was totally fine. Obviously certain things are not advised because of possible ill effects, but it isn’t like sushi always instantly destroys a pregnancy or something.
Post # 9
pearlrose : My coworker’s daughter (college freshman) got pregnant and managed to never show and not figure out she was pregnant until delivery.
Not to threadjack, but omg HOW?? I hear stories like this sometimes and just can’t imagine how that is possible lol.
Post # 10
Don’t freak out! This is so early in your pregnancy that I highly doubt any of these things caused any damage to your baby. You can talk about this with your doctor at your first appointment. Just be better starting now 🙂
Post # 11
tiffanybruiser : No freaking clue. I was 7 months pregnant at the time and looked like a whale. This girl was slender and no one even suspected anything. Maybe she had really good abs and a strong sense of denial? She went to the hospital for severe abdominal pain and had a baby 8 hours later. It was quite the bit of gossip. Her brother was one of my students. Even he was confused, and he was in second grade. I remember him looking at me and you could tell he was thinking “how come my sister didn’t look big like you?” but was too polite to say it. My coworker (the new grandma) missed a couple days of work and then hastily threw together a baby shower when she came back. The new dad (ex-boyfriend of the new mom) took it really well, considering he had no clue any of this was going on until he was called to say he had a daughter.
Post # 12
pearlrose : As a fellow beached whale while pregnant lady….that is effing insane!
Post # 13
You’re ok. The blood stream does not join till about 6 weeks or something. 2 days before I found out I was pregnant, I got beyond drunk and threw up nonstop. I always did intense barre, ate whatever, and all the things. You are ok and try not to stress.
Post # 14
Thank you so much for all your support, everyone! My husband came home and i told him and he was happy, which helped too. I took two more tests (one a different brand) and all say i’m pregnant! Still in shock!
Post # 15
essie347 : congratulations! This is lovely news.
My girlfriend had been drinking heavily with both bubs before she discovered she was pregnant. She freaked out both times and went to the doctor who reassured her that as many as 50% of pregnancies are unplanned, and therefore drinking/eating certain foods/exercising is very common in the early days. I’m TTC right now, and it’s taking a while, so I don’t really monitor food etc yet. I try to cut back on alcohol and stop after one or two, but that’s it really.
It’s way easier said than done (because pregnancy can be an anxious time), but reassure yourself that things are fine, take precautions from here on, and enjoy this time!