(Closed) positives and negatives of “first look”

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Post # 3
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I really am a fool when it comes to this because I just refuse to do one. I KNOW that couples who do them love them, and they make it so much easier to take pictures/coordinate the ceremony without the bride having to hide somewhere, but the traditionalist in me just wants the first look to be as I’m coming down the aisle. Logistically, I know I should do one, but sentimentality keeps me from doing it.

Post # 5
1555 posts
Bumble bee

I on the other hand want to have that private moment, just me and him. The first I see him as a groom and he sees me as a bride … I don’t know that I want that to be shared with everyone. During a wedding, you have so little, if any, alone time. I think having the first look adds something special to the day. I’ll be doing one.

Post # 6
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I really wanted to do a first look for a while. I loved the way the pictures looked and thought it would take away some of the jitters. until Fiance got really adament about having the first time he sees me is me walking down the aisle. I didn’t really think he would have an opinion about it until I asked him… he got really emotional about picturing that moment and has had that vision in his mind for so long. He doesn’t care about much of the details, but that was one that he really cared about. 

Logistics, sentimental private moment, I know. But there are only so many “wow” moments in our lives, and that is going to be one of ours. I want to remember that feeling forever. 

We’re going to take some time with just us after the ceremony and pictures in a vintage car from our reception site and drive around town, soaking in the married feeling and enjoying ourselves. 


Post # 7
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did a first look.  Pros: no worry about pictures in between, the moment you see each other can be more private, awesome first look pictures, some alone time on the day (even when we were doing pictures of the two of us, we had people following us around).  Cons: If you really want the first sight of each other to be walking up the aisle.

I really don’t see any other cons.  Plus the first time we saw each other was close-up, instead of from far away and slowly me coming up the aisle.  But I guess I am biased, I loved doing the first look!

Post # 8
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We’re definitely doing a first look. Our wedding is in Florida so I’ll be going over at least a week in advance and he’ll be staying in Texas until just a couple days before the wedding. We won’t be seeing a lot of each for the couple weeks before the wedding so we want to take that special moment of just the two of us to kind of reconnect before we spend several hours being the “entertainment” for our guests. Tongue out

Post # 9
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I am debating this because I want more time after my ceremony to just chill and not worry about too many photos. But my fiance refuses. Fine with me 🙂

Honestly, I would love a first look… but I don’t like that we have to part after that for the actual wedding. If I did a first look I would be so sad/annoyed that I had to go back into the church WITHOUT him so that I could walk down the aisle. I hate leaving him! Maybe this has something to do with our long distance relationship.

Post # 10
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Fiance and I have scheduled a Day After shoot with our photog because we aren’t crazy about First Look. For one, most First Look shots are INCREDIBLY overdone and formulaic. I have literally never seen one that wasn’t the bride sneaking up on the groom with his back turned.Maybe I’d be a little more on-board if photogs could put their heads together and think of a fresh way of presenting this concept. There’s gotta be one. (No offense to anyone who’s done this–I think the problem is that I read WAY too many wedding blogs, and anything of this nature will start to seem hokey after you’ve seen it a billion times.)

A Day After shoot will allow us to get at least marginally more interesting poses, and without spoiling any of the magic of the walking-down-the-aise moment. It will also keep us from being rushed–a friend of mine did First Look, and her hair stylist was late, so it was literally like *tap groom’s shoulder* “Hi!” *pose for one more photo* “Bye!” It’ll also allow us to go certain places and do certain things that I might not consider before the wedding for risk of staining/ruining the dress. We aren’t setting out for it to be a TTD, but if it ends up getting trashed, it’s no huge tragedy.

YMMV, of course, but that’s why we decided against one.

Post # 12
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011


This. Eactly.

I told our photographer his look while I’m coming down the aisle is most important.

I could do the shots in a series- one of him, one of me and then one of us once I’m up there.

Also we are not doing any professional pictures till after the recception. We’ll have our amateur-pro photographer doing candid shots and then one my good friends gifted us with an after wedding photo session.

Post # 13
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Garden of the Gods

We did a first look. For us, capturing the expressions on our faces on film was the way to go. Fiance had enough trouble meeting me at the end of my processional as it was when we did the first look; I can’t imagine how it would have been if we hadn’t done it.

Plus, I knew I would probably cry and I did. It was a private moment for us that we didn’t have any time in the rest of the evening to share.

Post # 14
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m biased cause I want to do one, but from weddings I’ve been to where they DID a first look, the groom’s jaw still dropped when the bride walked down the aisle. Heck, my Brother-In-Law cried when sis walked down the aisle, they had spent the hour and some change before it taking pictures together and it still choked him up. There is a differnce in seeing your bride and then SEEING your bride, right when she is about to become your wife. 

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