(Closed) Possessive over my baby already, can anyone relate?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
6379 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Relax.  They are saying what most people say without a real intention of following through.  It’s just a way of showing excitement.

Post # 17
79 posts
Worker bee

It’s good that you acknowledge that it’s irrational (i.e. they are not actually going to take your baby), but it’s also important to keep an eye on this as you move towards labor. Mama bear protection is totally normal, but can also border on hypervigilence post-partum anxiety. This is not meant to be medical advice, but a suggestion to keep an eye on it and if you feel your anxiety increasing more as labor comes near/post partum – to talk to your midwives/OB about it. My sister had pretty severe hypervigilence and anti-anxiety meds helped pretty quickly. That said, pregnancy and parenting is full of anxieties (as I’m learning quite quickly)… you worked very hard on him/her for a long time – of course you want to protect the baby!

Post # 18
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I feel you on this, but I agree with what others have said about people being super excited to be there all the time until the baby is actually there. Once baby comes, people are a lot more absent. My biggest issue with Dear Daughter was when she would start to cry and the person holding her would say “it’s okay, I got this” and try to calm her when my mother instinct was yelling “give me my damn baby” on the inside. I had to learn that people give up pretty quickly and will hand over the baby in defeat. So eventually I learned to relax and calmly wait for them to give up. 

Post # 19
422 posts
Helper bee

…. Nobody really means it. Please take this in the spirit in which it was meant – no one, not your relatives, not your friends, no one- is as excited about your impending arrival as you are. But what they *are* trying to do is be supportive and make you feel special.

Post # 20
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

lalanono:  I’m just 21 weeks but I kind of relate…

I live far away from parents and parents in law and someone (mostly my mom) wants to come straight after I give birth. In her words “to play with the baby so I can sleep”. I know all mommies are going to say “go for it”, but I do feel like at least the first couple of weeks I’m going to be more possessive of the baby……. and sleep when the baby sleeps kind of thing. I know, i know it is asking for much but I’m not working and I don’t think I’ll mind (at least in the first 2 weeks) the hectic schedule.

I would say take it with a pinch of salt, smile and when the time comes become MUMZILLA and hide your hide inside your clothes!!!! arh arh arh!!!! You won’t be alone 😉

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