(Closed) Possibility of Best Man and MOH not attending wedding.. Help!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
137 posts
Blushing bee

Did you send out invitations and ask for RSVPs? If so, did they RSVP yes? Again, if so, I would say leave their travel planning up to them. In my opnion, if someone has RSVP’d yes to your wedding, then you assume going forward that they will be in attendance unless you are personally told otherwise. I too am having a Destination Wedding, and I send out invited to literally everyone, even my bridal party even though it should be obvious that they are invited if I asked them to be in my bridal party, but I did it because I wanted those RSVPs. So yea, maybe answer that question and then I’ll try to help out a little more.

Post # 3
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Phone them up.  Ask if they are coming as you need to know by … IF not you can make alternative arrangements.  No big deal.

Post # 4
5159 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

somethingnew:  Did you send out invites? What did they RSVP?

Post # 6
11641 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

somethingnew:  I would just tell them – we need to get final numbers to the venue, we know it’s a big trip and just wanted to confirm if you can make it.  If you’re not, we completely understand, we just need to know.


Post # 7
137 posts
Blushing bee

Okay I see the problem. If I was you, id be super bubbly about it and just start mentioning all sorts of wedding planning activities (since they are are Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor I dont think that they would mind listening to all the planning stuff), and then just quickly and happily ask them if they have booked their hotel and flights yet because you want to see if you can all sit together on the plane and need their reservation numbers to do so, or something like that. Just don’t make it come across as nagging them, because its a sensative subject if they are tight on money. Then just see how it plays out!

Post # 10
137 posts
Blushing bee

somethingnew:  Thats so strange! Then just out right ask them then. I understand people have financial issues, but also planning a Destination Wedding, I understand your stress! And its not fair that they arent telling you anything. It sounds to me like they are trying to avoid it because they dont know what to say, they dont know how to tell you they cant come?. But if you just directly ask them if they are coming (explaining you understand if they cant make it due to financial stress blah blah) I dont see how they could not give you a direct answer!

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