- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
As of now I have two official bridesmaids. I have another friend who moved a few hours away a couple months ago. Her and I have been friends for years and yet we have had our ups and downs she has genuinely been a great friend/one of my best friends and would be shocked that I am considering not making her a bridesmaid. She and my fiance do not get along at all. Their personalities clash and always have. Recently she had a falling out with one of our close friends who is also my maid of honor. My maid of honor tried to clear things up and make sure it would not be weird as they would both be involved in the wedding, and she was completely rude and dramatic to her telling her that obviously there wouldn’t be an issue and why did she even bring it up. I don’t want to get into their drama, and the fact that she doesn’t get along now with my fiance or maid of honor kind of makes me want to not make her part of the party. I have been wish washy in talking to her about what I would do about a wedding party/if i’d have one. She has always been a great friend to me and initially was helping me with ideas and we even looked at bridesmaid dresses, her mom is a caterer and doing my cake. I feel like a jerk if I don’t put her in the party, but I don’t want those weird dynamics. If I talk to her, she will tell me that of course she won’t make it an issue, but the fact that they don’t get along isn’t going away. I hate excluding people and I know she’d be hurt if she wasn’t in the party. I don’t know if it would be weirder to have her upset and out of the party, or in it with the weird friend dynamics. What should I do??