Post # 1
My parents travel a lot for work. I currently live at home and I have always known that at some point they would probably sell the house. They are in town for the weekend and their current plans are to put the house on the market this fall. My parents are thinking along the lines of me getting my own apartment and living by myself. My boyfriend and I were talking tonight and feel like this would be a great opportunity to move in together. We have been debating this issue for a while. My parents are totally against cohabitation. A few of my friends are as well. The church I attend is also against it. We are already sleeping together and as a result aren’t concerned about the temptation issue. We love each other and really feel like this is an awesome opportunity.
I worry about how I’m going to approach this topic with my parents and some of my friends. Is there a right or wrong way to address this?
This topic was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by Kacey23.
Post # 2
Kacey23: If you tell them you are already sleeping together, living together won’t be nearly as shocking to them.
Post # 3
Why do you have to tell anyone? You could always just move in and be done with it!
EDIT: Actually, just curious… but how old are you? I’m guessing you’re quite young, because you are still living with your parents, and didn’t move out to go to university. It does matter because I can understand your parents being protective if you are still a teenager.
Post # 4
Rachel631: I was 22 and still living with my parents before I got married. My husband was also still living with his parents before we got married. He was 25 at the time. We both went to community college. And our parents were both fine with us continuing to live with them so long as we payed our own bills and stuff.
Post # 5
I understand how you feel, but I honestly think that a friend who judges you about this isn’t really a great friend.
Parents, though, are another issue! 🙂 It can be shocking for them to realize their little girl is all grown up, but this is something all parents have to go through. I would just tell them, gently, that you’re going to be living with your boyfriend. Period. There’s really no easy way to do this — my best advice is just to be calm and firm no matter what, and remember that you’re an adult and 100% in control of your life now.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Are they paying your rent? If not, and if you are financially independent, it’s time to own your decisions. Do what you want.
Post # 7
Kacey23: Lady I am 32 and some of my family was shcoked when me and my now fiancé moved in together. I think one of the biggest life lessons we all learn is to not give two sh*ts what other people have to say. Parentals or otherwise… you are already probably going against what they belive by sleeping together so live your life the best way you know how and not for anyone else. Tlel then you are moving in together.. they will get over