(Closed) Possible ED, what do I do?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

encourage him to eat healthy, and invite him to go for jogs or walks with you and the dogs if you have any. I really don’t have much of a clue on what to say, I just pester my SO until I get some or try to turn him on. 

Post # 4
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I hope you don’t mind but I let Mr.Bobby read this and he suggested maybe taking a testosterone booster and hit the gym, nothing will help as much as that(it gives a lot of confidence and stama and ect.), and yeah. 

Also try some of those foods and other libido boosters, I looked it up one night and theres a lot of stuff. 

Post # 5
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

The fact that he can still get turned on by porn makes me think it is more of an emotional or relationship issue than a physical issue.  Is there something in your relationship that could be stressing him out causing the problem?

Post # 7
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393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Has he gained weight? My husband did, and its really affected our sex life…..but yea, he won’t get off his ass and work out! If he did i think it would solve our problems. stress can problem do it too though….

Post # 8
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not gonna lie I havent heard of a lot of men being stressed about a wedding/marriage, but you know much more about him than I do. 

How long have been living together?

Post # 9
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby recently.  It sounds like life is pretty stressful right now.  If this issue doesn’t resolve, would you consider attending some type of therapy, at least to discuss the life changes that have happened recently?

Post # 11
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I do think that he could be stressed out about getting married.  That is a big decision and since you two still aren’t engaged yet, there is a lot of pressure on him.  He could also be stressed about having a baby right now.  Gaining some weight might have an effect on it too but unless he is severely overweight, I don’t think that would cause a physical problem.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Maybe it is stress over the marriage. My fiance is stressed too over our upcoming marriage, but he’s not having this problem.   As always though stress effects people in different ways. Irony: sex would help distress him. I have to agree with MissAsB: If he can get some wind into his sails when he sees porn then why not when it’s with you. Encourage him to exercise and maybe try to watch porn together.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Throw the porn out! He’s relying on it. Maybe he needs to be “retrained” because he’s become too reliant on it…if that’s the only thing that works, right? 

Sit down at the dinner table and have a talk about it. Ask him if there’s anything esle going on. Chances are there is, even though you worked through counseling a few months ago, stuff may be lingering or resurfacing.

Is there anything he likes to do at the gym? Maybe take him to pilates? My husband was super opposed to it (wah, it’s all women, it’s stupid blah blah blah) but I said, “please go, for me? It’ll be good for you” and now he likes going. Plus i always make sure i wear cute pants so he compliments me on my butt, haha. Gently remind him the Dr wants him to go. Encourage him to adopt a healthier lifestyle. It’ll help lift his mood.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, please do not throw his porn out. Talk to him about maybe incorporating it into your fun but throwing out his porn is asking for more drama and stress and will just make him feel like he has to sneak around and watch it online.

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